hi, I am the parent of a 20 year old daughter with autism. She is amazing and we love her. I am just keen to reach out to other parents who have struggled with thier childs behaviours as they entered adulthood. I am pretty stressed out at the moment and would love some advice from anyone who understands. She has always been a challenge and obviously there have been many "tear your hair out moments" as she has grown up. Things most here would understand, socks not being pulled up right, shopping not in order in the trolly, crowd gathering public tantrums, etc, etc. We have been bitten, kicked, scratched and things have been broken. We have suffered the heartache of her not making friends and being socially excluded. I could go on but I imagine I dont need to. This has all been hard but we have on the whole managed pretty well. We try deal with most things with a sense of humour where we can. Now though things seem constantly difficult. She seems permenantly ready to fight anything and everything. Is this her way of having some sense of control, when everything else is so difficult? Do I give in to her behaviours now she is heading towards 21, or carry on the battle to get her to do things everyone elses way? An example would be her refusal to eat any meal with anyone but me in the room. She therefore has eaten every meal cold for months. Any advice would be greatly appriciated. thank you
