refusing school advice needed please

Hello, I'm new to the community but have 10 year old with Aspergers syndrome. He has severe anxieties & school is one of his main issues.

He goes to mainstream & I'm doing what I can to support him. He can be very violent at home but normally holds it together at school. He hasnt been to school for last 2 days. Today I got him to school but he was very anxious & upset he said (as always) maths & literacy were an issue. He sat outside school refusing to go in & I was told by his teacher to take him home & try again tomorrow. 

The school tell me he's fine when there but yet tell me he won't cope in high school & are doubtful he will cope in year 6 so I'm so confused over what's really going on. I have regular Caf meetings & he is under camhs.

Does anyone have any experience with this or advice on what I should be doing please to support getting him back into school. I really don't believe home education is suitable for us as a family right now. 

I understand the importance of Maths & Literacy but am I being unreasonable if I ask school to withdraw him from these lessons as a temporary measure to at least get him back into school & until it can be discussed at our next caf?  

Sorry for long post & thank you for reading 

  • Hi, if your son is supported by a classroom assistant perhaps you could suggest that he is eased back into lessons by his C.A. taking him to a quiet area to begin with, on a one to one basis, and gradually reintroduced into the classroom lesson.  My boys get overwhelmed sometimes in noisy environments and I know the school used this tactic for awhile.  Regarding secondary school, a friend in a similar situation, recommended getting in touch with your local education 'inclusion officer' who are apparently very supportive.  'Parent Partnership' is also pushed my way on a regular basis, to negotiate between home and school. Best of luck anyway. 

  • Hi, what support do the school provide to your son?  How autism-aware are they?  Should he change to another school?