Daughter asd sleep and behaviour problems help !!!

hi all

im new here and hoping for some advice. My daughter is seven and last week finally has the ados assessment and has been diagnosed asd. I always knew in my heart she wasn't quite right and am thankful after all these years we have a diagnoses. However despite having a diagnoses now my partner of three years (not my daughters father) is constantly telling me her behaviour and routines are nothing to do with being asd and she is just a naughty spoilt little girl that I habe brought up wrong. He says I dont siacipline her and let her get away with everything. Where's the line between being naughty and asd ? We are rowing constantly. To top it off my daughter has severe sleep issues she settles to sleep but then is awake every hour crying knocking on doors and cannot settle ahe is very anxious and scared. Her paediatrician has prescribed circadian 2mg which she has taken for a week with no difference at all !!! She wants to be with me. I said to my partner to bring her bed in my room so we can all get some much needed sleep but he said he doesn't want to listen to her noise all night !!! I'm at a loss of what to do regarding it all

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  • Hello Blueangel76,

       I agree with crystal12, You have not done anything wrong.

    Can I just add, when I had issues with my sons sleeping, I would often take off the t-shirt I'd worn that day and cover a hotwater bottle with it, for my sons to sleep on or next to. The comfort for one of my sons was immediate, as he has sensory smell issues and found comfort in sleeping with my scent near him. This gave them the sense that I was close and gave me; on occaision, some much needed sleep. Give it a go and see if it helps. Additionally, you may wish to try some of the other things I've tried on this list, I gave to someone last week.

    community.autism.org.uk/.../31578

    Perhaps you could get your partner to watch a video on ASD, so that he better understands whats involved for someone on the spectrum. This was designed to educate teachers, but I share it a lot.

    www.youtube.com/watch

    Well done on getting a diagnosis. I hope things move in a positive direction for you.

    Coogybear X

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  • Hello Blueangel76,

       I agree with crystal12, You have not done anything wrong.

    Can I just add, when I had issues with my sons sleeping, I would often take off the t-shirt I'd worn that day and cover a hotwater bottle with it, for my sons to sleep on or next to. The comfort for one of my sons was immediate, as he has sensory smell issues and found comfort in sleeping with my scent near him. This gave them the sense that I was close and gave me; on occaision, some much needed sleep. Give it a go and see if it helps. Additionally, you may wish to try some of the other things I've tried on this list, I gave to someone last week.

    community.autism.org.uk/.../31578

    Perhaps you could get your partner to watch a video on ASD, so that he better understands whats involved for someone on the spectrum. This was designed to educate teachers, but I share it a lot.

    www.youtube.com/watch

    Well done on getting a diagnosis. I hope things move in a positive direction for you.

    Coogybear X

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