Daughter asd sleep and behaviour problems help !!!

hi all

im new here and hoping for some advice. My daughter is seven and last week finally has the ados assessment and has been diagnosed asd. I always knew in my heart she wasn't quite right and am thankful after all these years we have a diagnoses. However despite having a diagnoses now my partner of three years (not my daughters father) is constantly telling me her behaviour and routines are nothing to do with being asd and she is just a naughty spoilt little girl that I habe brought up wrong. He says I dont siacipline her and let her get away with everything. Where's the line between being naughty and asd ? We are rowing constantly. To top it off my daughter has severe sleep issues she settles to sleep but then is awake every hour crying knocking on doors and cannot settle ahe is very anxious and scared. Her paediatrician has prescribed circadian 2mg which she has taken for a week with no difference at all !!! She wants to be with me. I said to my partner to bring her bed in my room so we can all get some much needed sleep but he said he doesn't want to listen to her noise all night !!! I'm at a loss of what to do regarding it all

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Agree with Crystal on this one. Don't back down - if partner instinctively thinks that she needs more discipline then he is simply wrong. (It does depend what he means by discipline though) What she needs is consistency and quiet and calm in the house. I wish that I (father of 2 boys) had learnt to say no or yes and then follow it through - sometimes this means saying yes when you want to say no but are too tired to follow through!

    I would, however, resist the idea of letting her into your room - this will be very hard to reverse and she may get confused because you will seem, to her, to suddenly change your mind about the rules of where she can sleep.

    It may be that she is disturbed by something (e.g. new partner?). Is anything upsetting her?

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Agree with Crystal on this one. Don't back down - if partner instinctively thinks that she needs more discipline then he is simply wrong. (It does depend what he means by discipline though) What she needs is consistency and quiet and calm in the house. I wish that I (father of 2 boys) had learnt to say no or yes and then follow it through - sometimes this means saying yes when you want to say no but are too tired to follow through!

    I would, however, resist the idea of letting her into your room - this will be very hard to reverse and she may get confused because you will seem, to her, to suddenly change your mind about the rules of where she can sleep.

    It may be that she is disturbed by something (e.g. new partner?). Is anything upsetting her?

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