So I finally face my demons, HELP!

Hi there,

I am a father of an 8 year old autistic child whom my wife deals with fantastically but well if I'm honest I increasingly struggle to manage with this child's behaviour and what seem continual meltdowns and his simply unreasonable understanding and communication when going through these episodes, we have two thee children who cope really well considering the level of attention that our autistic son demands from both of us.

I work extremely long and stressful hours and occupy a very high level managerial role within the construction industry, I fear that what is going on at home is affecting my work in numerous ways, stressing about my son, lack of sleep after late night meltdowns and early starts as well as the strains it is applying to my marriage.

I am not writting this in the hope that pity or sorrow are shown but in an effort to reach other fathers who find themselves in this position or can offer some guidance, I am increasingly self aware that I need to make the effort to understand my son and his situation and would like some guidance on how it may be possible to get!

hope the above is clear and I have not bored you all!

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  • Your all missing the point, I value every minute i spend with all three of my children, I also enjoy spending time with my wife but when I get home like tonight and it is meet with a meltdown sparked by a minor issue with a sibling that lasts 4 hours and ruins family time over dinner, means my other children suffer and my wife left looking like she's about to ball her eyes out I think I deserve a genuine and sensible answer for help, not criticism cause I mention my work in a post.

    i know what I'll give up work care for my child full time and add to the countrys woo's by milking the system

    that will help everyone, well done!

    told my wife things like this are a waste of time!

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  • Your all missing the point, I value every minute i spend with all three of my children, I also enjoy spending time with my wife but when I get home like tonight and it is meet with a meltdown sparked by a minor issue with a sibling that lasts 4 hours and ruins family time over dinner, means my other children suffer and my wife left looking like she's about to ball her eyes out I think I deserve a genuine and sensible answer for help, not criticism cause I mention my work in a post.

    i know what I'll give up work care for my child full time and add to the countrys woo's by milking the system

    that will help everyone, well done!

    told my wife things like this are a waste of time!

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