So I finally face my demons, HELP!

Hi there,

I am a father of an 8 year old autistic child whom my wife deals with fantastically but well if I'm honest I increasingly struggle to manage with this child's behaviour and what seem continual meltdowns and his simply unreasonable understanding and communication when going through these episodes, we have two thee children who cope really well considering the level of attention that our autistic son demands from both of us.

I work extremely long and stressful hours and occupy a very high level managerial role within the construction industry, I fear that what is going on at home is affecting my work in numerous ways, stressing about my son, lack of sleep after late night meltdowns and early starts as well as the strains it is applying to my marriage.

I am not writting this in the hope that pity or sorrow are shown but in an effort to reach other fathers who find themselves in this position or can offer some guidance, I am increasingly self aware that I need to make the effort to understand my son and his situation and would like some guidance on how it may be possible to get!

hope the above is clear and I have not bored you all!

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  • Hi, it's good that you've decided you need to be more understanding of your son + more helpful to the rest of your family.  I do understand that holding down a stressful job + having a stressful home life as well is difficult to deal with.  That applies to all of you, of course.  So as "they say"......."we're all in this together."  If I were you I'd check out the home pg + do a search of the posts.  Loads of info there.  Learning all you can about autism + how it affects your child will go a long way to helping all of you to find a better way fwd.  Good luck + do persevere - these things take time on all fronts....patience Smile

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  • Hi, it's good that you've decided you need to be more understanding of your son + more helpful to the rest of your family.  I do understand that holding down a stressful job + having a stressful home life as well is difficult to deal with.  That applies to all of you, of course.  So as "they say"......."we're all in this together."  If I were you I'd check out the home pg + do a search of the posts.  Loads of info there.  Learning all you can about autism + how it affects your child will go a long way to helping all of you to find a better way fwd.  Good luck + do persevere - these things take time on all fronts....patience Smile

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