Coping at university - AS son aged 23

I am interested to hear from others about supporting sons/daughters through university.

My son finds the stress of his current (highly academic course/university) too demanding but does not want to change to a less prestigeous university/less demanding course.  He finds it very difficult to focus on the reality of his experiences, and think about changing plans in order to be more likely to succeed.  He has had mentoring help at university but when the chips are down he does not turn up for the mentoring or study support, nor answer the phone or reply to txts from us, his parents. 

He has successfully completed five terms' work over a period of 15 terms, with long periods out due to depression or for breaks as he was behind with the work and not able to cope at the expected level, even with various allowances made.

It is difficult to put the right package of support in place (ie a foolproof one!).

We would like him to transfer to a university that he could attend while living at home, so that we could help him keep in the rails: get up & go to bed at a reasonable time, get to lectures/seminars (or at least not miss them as he had over slepty/not left his room, write the essays, eat, wash, socialise, keep an eye on his mental health/taking medication etc. 

Does anyone else have thoughts, tips or relevant experience?

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  • Les Worrall said:

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    I've taken your surname out of my previous post to to try and anonymise it as much as possible. You can edit posts later if you need to.

    Have you considered if you have Asperger's too? It is often inherited and it could explain why you have difficulties in talking to her about it? Just a thought though, please don't take offence. There is a free test at aspergerstest.net/.../

    I got 15 which is average for women. Am I a woman in a man's body Smile No I am not Autistic Smile

    is this to be taken as an NT attempt at humour?

    I was being humerous. I am a man and I am not on the autistic spectrum.

    lol sorry, my little attempt at humour. I shouldn't really be amusing myself here but occasionally one slips out.

    ooooh you are NT Smile

    no need for name calling

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  • Les Worrall said:

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    I've taken your surname out of my previous post to to try and anonymise it as much as possible. You can edit posts later if you need to.

    Have you considered if you have Asperger's too? It is often inherited and it could explain why you have difficulties in talking to her about it? Just a thought though, please don't take offence. There is a free test at aspergerstest.net/.../

    I got 15 which is average for women. Am I a woman in a man's body Smile No I am not Autistic Smile

    is this to be taken as an NT attempt at humour?

    I was being humerous. I am a man and I am not on the autistic spectrum.

    lol sorry, my little attempt at humour. I shouldn't really be amusing myself here but occasionally one slips out.

    ooooh you are NT Smile

    no need for name calling

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