Coping at university - AS son aged 23

I am interested to hear from others about supporting sons/daughters through university.

My son finds the stress of his current (highly academic course/university) too demanding but does not want to change to a less prestigeous university/less demanding course.  He finds it very difficult to focus on the reality of his experiences, and think about changing plans in order to be more likely to succeed.  He has had mentoring help at university but when the chips are down he does not turn up for the mentoring or study support, nor answer the phone or reply to txts from us, his parents. 

He has successfully completed five terms' work over a period of 15 terms, with long periods out due to depression or for breaks as he was behind with the work and not able to cope at the expected level, even with various allowances made.

It is difficult to put the right package of support in place (ie a foolproof one!).

We would like him to transfer to a university that he could attend while living at home, so that we could help him keep in the rails: get up & go to bed at a reasonable time, get to lectures/seminars (or at least not miss them as he had over slepty/not left his room, write the essays, eat, wash, socialise, keep an eye on his mental health/taking medication etc. 

Does anyone else have thoughts, tips or relevant experience?

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  • Former Member
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    Anonymous said:

    I can't pass any information on to her, as she gets angry, if she knows I have been talking about her.

    Her flatmates do know that she is Autistic.

    In which case I hope that you have not used your real name for your posts? I've raised the issue with the moderators as it is in any case against forum guidelines to use real names.

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Anonymous said:

    I can't pass any information on to her, as she gets angry, if she knows I have been talking about her.

    Her flatmates do know that she is Autistic.

    In which case I hope that you have not used your real name for your posts? I've raised the issue with the moderators as it is in any case against forum guidelines to use real names.

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