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Coping at university - AS son aged 23

Eve

I am interested to hear from others about supporting sons/daughters through university.

My son finds the stress of his current (highly academic course/university) too demanding but does not want to change to a less prestigeous university/less demanding course.  He finds it very difficult to focus on the reality of his experiences, and think about changing plans in order to be more likely to succeed.  He has had mentoring help at university but when the chips are down he does not turn up for the mentoring or study support, nor answer the phone or reply to txts from us, his parents. 

He has successfully completed five terms' work over a period of 15 terms, with long periods out due to depression or for breaks as he was behind with the work and not able to cope at the expected level, even with various allowances made.

It is difficult to put the right package of support in place (ie a foolproof one!).

We would like him to transfer to a university that he could attend while living at home, so that we could help him keep in the rails: get up & go to bed at a reasonable time, get to lectures/seminars (or at least not miss them as he had over slepty/not left his room, write the essays, eat, wash, socialise, keep an eye on his mental health/taking medication etc. 

Does anyone else have thoughts, tips or relevant experience?

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  • But is handwriting quite the same as an SpLD in the Cambridge Disability website context? And why not link it to autism? Neither autism nor dyspraxia are learning disabilities per se, though they may occur with a learning disability.

    The point I'm trying to make is that Oxford and Cambridge Universities fail to take disability seriously enough, probably because they are so selective and eletist they can avoid taking on the disabled. Bit like top public schools.

    The origin of this thread was lack of disability support for autism at Oxford or Cambridge universities,and my posting, the last of the original thread, was 4 days after the thread started on 21st January. Your postings (March) are disputing whether Cambridge had any understanding of autism support, and you've found a link, but the evidence seems to be they are not good at actually supporting it.

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  • But is handwriting quite the same as an SpLD in the Cambridge Disability website context? And why not link it to autism? Neither autism nor dyspraxia are learning disabilities per se, though they may occur with a learning disability.

    The point I'm trying to make is that Oxford and Cambridge Universities fail to take disability seriously enough, probably because they are so selective and eletist they can avoid taking on the disabled. Bit like top public schools.

    The origin of this thread was lack of disability support for autism at Oxford or Cambridge universities,and my posting, the last of the original thread, was 4 days after the thread started on 21st January. Your postings (March) are disputing whether Cambridge had any understanding of autism support, and you've found a link, but the evidence seems to be they are not good at actually supporting it.

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