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Can't cope

MummyBH

Hi,

My husband and I have a 9 year old son and I am unable to cope with him. He has medium ASD (Asperger's) among many other borderline conditions.

I need some support with how to manage it all.

I have two other children, who are younger than him, who have their own issues as well.

I am feeling very lonely and out of control. Any words of wisdom appreciated.

Thank you x

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  • Hi, thank you for your reply.  My child is 9, he is adopted and had head injuries as a baby.  His brother and sister are full siblings, but were not physically abused, so far as we know.  He has lots of borderline issues, such as hypermobility in his joints, weak muscle tone, over-compliance, an indiscriminate attachment, high pain threshold.  These, combined with his ASD make it difficult to to parent him.

    1. One of my concerns is with repetative behaviour.  Should he be able to repeat himself, or should we be trying to help him understand that the things he does can sometimes not be the right thing to do at the time?

    2. I have a hard time balancing how he is with what society will find accepatble as he grows up.  I sometimes feel I am getting no-where with him, but I also know that some of his behaviours will never change.

    3. It all gets too emotionally draining and I have had to give up work and effectively become a recluse.  If it wasnt for the school run and managing the kids' social lives , I wouldnt have any reason to leave the house.  This bothers me immensely because I was always a social butterfly and now it leaves me cold just thinking about having to leave the house (except for what the kids need).

    I just want an online place to vent really!

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  • Hi, thank you for your reply.  My child is 9, he is adopted and had head injuries as a baby.  His brother and sister are full siblings, but were not physically abused, so far as we know.  He has lots of borderline issues, such as hypermobility in his joints, weak muscle tone, over-compliance, an indiscriminate attachment, high pain threshold.  These, combined with his ASD make it difficult to to parent him.

    1. One of my concerns is with repetative behaviour.  Should he be able to repeat himself, or should we be trying to help him understand that the things he does can sometimes not be the right thing to do at the time?

    2. I have a hard time balancing how he is with what society will find accepatble as he grows up.  I sometimes feel I am getting no-where with him, but I also know that some of his behaviours will never change.

    3. It all gets too emotionally draining and I have had to give up work and effectively become a recluse.  If it wasnt for the school run and managing the kids' social lives , I wouldnt have any reason to leave the house.  This bothers me immensely because I was always a social butterfly and now it leaves me cold just thinking about having to leave the house (except for what the kids need).

    I just want an online place to vent really!

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