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Shunning comfort when hurt/upset

NinjaMouse

I have a little girl who is four next month and we are currently awaiting an assessment for ASD.

The only behaviour that I struggle with, is when she has hurt herself or is upset.  She used to be extremely cuddly and clingy when hurt.  But for the last 9-12 months she completely shuns all attempts to comfort her or see if she is alright.  You can not even talk to her, she just screams 'No' at you and pushes you away.  On one occasion, she was hurt quite badly and I had to just stand with her for over 15 minutes until she calmed down, as she wouldn't let me examine her, talk to her or take her home.

Does anyone have any advice that might help her?

 

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  • Hi,this is the first time I have been on this forum. My son who is 5 has recently been diagnosed with Asperger's. He reacts in exactly the same way if he hurts himself. He will not let me comfort him at all or even ask if he is ok. Like your daughter he just pushes me away. It is really upsetting as a parent as you just don't want to cuddle them and make sure they are ok. I am always worried about what will happen if he hurt himself very badly as I just don't know how we would deal with it. Nice to know I am not alone in this though! Also, interesting to see it is a sensory overload as I hadn't considered that before.

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  • Hi,this is the first time I have been on this forum. My son who is 5 has recently been diagnosed with Asperger's. He reacts in exactly the same way if he hurts himself. He will not let me comfort him at all or even ask if he is ok. Like your daughter he just pushes me away. It is really upsetting as a parent as you just don't want to cuddle them and make sure they are ok. I am always worried about what will happen if he hurt himself very badly as I just don't know how we would deal with it. Nice to know I am not alone in this though! Also, interesting to see it is a sensory overload as I hadn't considered that before.

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