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Shunning comfort when hurt/upset

NinjaMouse

I have a little girl who is four next month and we are currently awaiting an assessment for ASD.

The only behaviour that I struggle with, is when she has hurt herself or is upset.  She used to be extremely cuddly and clingy when hurt.  But for the last 9-12 months she completely shuns all attempts to comfort her or see if she is alright.  You can not even talk to her, she just screams 'No' at you and pushes you away.  On one occasion, she was hurt quite badly and I had to just stand with her for over 15 minutes until she calmed down, as she wouldn't let me examine her, talk to her or take her home.

Does anyone have any advice that might help her?

 

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  • Thanks Chrystal.  I am quite lucky that we do seem to have too many meltdowns, particularly now that her speech has shown some improvement.  It is more when she has fell over and hurt herself that causes the issue.  I feel like we had a break through this week though,  we had a little game when she was calm and had something wrong with her finger, where I was kissing it better.  The next day she fell over,and even though she did her usual behaviour when first hurt, when her meltdown finished, she came to me to kiss it better.  It was great and made me feel like I could give her a level of comfort, even if it wasn't when first hurt.

    in terms of school, she is still in pre-school until September, but they have been fantastic as the teacher worked in special needs for 8 years.  So they have a visual timetable, routine based morning,  have an action plan for speech and social communication and she has good interaction with her key worker.  In fact I am dreading her going to reception,  because I am not sure it is going to work as well.  I am just hoping we get a formal diagnosis/support before then.

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  • Thanks Chrystal.  I am quite lucky that we do seem to have too many meltdowns, particularly now that her speech has shown some improvement.  It is more when she has fell over and hurt herself that causes the issue.  I feel like we had a break through this week though,  we had a little game when she was calm and had something wrong with her finger, where I was kissing it better.  The next day she fell over,and even though she did her usual behaviour when first hurt, when her meltdown finished, she came to me to kiss it better.  It was great and made me feel like I could give her a level of comfort, even if it wasn't when first hurt.

    in terms of school, she is still in pre-school until September, but they have been fantastic as the teacher worked in special needs for 8 years.  So they have a visual timetable, routine based morning,  have an action plan for speech and social communication and she has good interaction with her key worker.  In fact I am dreading her going to reception,  because I am not sure it is going to work as well.  I am just hoping we get a formal diagnosis/support before then.

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