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Fed Up!

leanne35

Hi,

I havent been on here for a long while but I'm so done in right now and feel totally alone and isolated.

I have 2 boys with autism aged 9 and 10. They are very verbally and physically aggressive towards me and behave as if they hate me.  They tell me to f off, call me awful names and punch me in the face if they dont get their own way.  We have no help from CAMHS as they have no funding.  They have no respect for me at all and I fear for when they are older. 

My fiance has an autistic son too but he just doesnt seem to understand it from a mothers perspective. I am trynig so hard to take control of the situation and keep things positive but whatever I try backfires.  I see even the smallest of improvements or positive behaviour as achievements whereas he will still point out something negtive they did in the past.

I've been dealing with this for years and I'm mentally drained.  I feel I'm bending over backwards to keep everyone fed, clean, happy in general and yet no one seems to be taking care of me. I've not actually said that out loud as I think it sounds a bit princessy but its how I feel! I love the kids to bits I really do but I have no clue how to end this abuse. Sorry for the little rant, it just helps to know i'm not alone!

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  • Agree with everything RS says.

    But am also curious about your fiance. Do you live together, and if so, for how long? Does your fiance's son also live with you, and how old is he? Has your sons' behaviour deteriorated dramatically since your fiance has been involved with them?

    The bit about "whatever I try backfires.. he will still point out something negative they did in the past" gets alarm bells ringing. Is he controlling or critical with you also? How does he treat his own son?  

    Being criticised constantly is guaranteed to upset any child, and your sons may also be copying your fiance's bad behaviour. If this is the case, it sounds like he is in need of some therapy himself! 

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  • Agree with everything RS says.

    But am also curious about your fiance. Do you live together, and if so, for how long? Does your fiance's son also live with you, and how old is he? Has your sons' behaviour deteriorated dramatically since your fiance has been involved with them?

    The bit about "whatever I try backfires.. he will still point out something negative they did in the past" gets alarm bells ringing. Is he controlling or critical with you also? How does he treat his own son?  

    Being criticised constantly is guaranteed to upset any child, and your sons may also be copying your fiance's bad behaviour. If this is the case, it sounds like he is in need of some therapy himself! 

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