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aspergers, obsessions and parents who don't communicate...HELP!!

stepmumtroubles

I have a 5 year old step son who has an obsession with plants vs zombies. His mother was told by the health visitor (apparently) that he shouldn't be playing this game, during a time that she couldn't provide the game for him. Now that she can she has gone and bought him a tablet for Christmas which will give him unlimited access to his obsession. He will literally play this game from the minute he wakes up until the minute he goes to sleep. My husband (his father) just doesn't seem to say anything even though he says to me that he sees it as an issue. My step son seems to have now taken a step backwards with his behaviours and obsessions and as the step mother (and the person who made them aware that there might be an issue with autism) my opinion means nothing and it's so frustrating to have to deal with this especially being pregnant myself. Is there any one in a similar situation to me? Or any one who can advise me on something to do?! 

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  • His behaviour and social skills improved massively when he wasn't playing on that game at all and because he was seen as "getting better" by his mother she downloaded the game on her phone for him. Now he won't talk to anyone unless it is about the game and no longer wants to interact with children in his class. This has made trying to help him develop his social skills very difficult as the game is not age appropriate for 4/5 year old step not many other children play it.  

    When I said we use it as a reward system we do this by allowing him to gain extra time on the computer at our house when he has been well behaved. We understand that his behaviour won't change but he seems to respond well to earning the extra time and encourages him to do things for himself such as dress himself. It may not be the best way but it seems to work. 

    When I asked about the best interest in the child I was referring to the lack of communication between his parents, because they don't honestly tell each other about how they parent him when he is with them there seems to be inconsistency and I thought that a child with autism or aspergers would need a routine to help them. 

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  • His behaviour and social skills improved massively when he wasn't playing on that game at all and because he was seen as "getting better" by his mother she downloaded the game on her phone for him. Now he won't talk to anyone unless it is about the game and no longer wants to interact with children in his class. This has made trying to help him develop his social skills very difficult as the game is not age appropriate for 4/5 year old step not many other children play it.  

    When I said we use it as a reward system we do this by allowing him to gain extra time on the computer at our house when he has been well behaved. We understand that his behaviour won't change but he seems to respond well to earning the extra time and encourages him to do things for himself such as dress himself. It may not be the best way but it seems to work. 

    When I asked about the best interest in the child I was referring to the lack of communication between his parents, because they don't honestly tell each other about how they parent him when he is with them there seems to be inconsistency and I thought that a child with autism or aspergers would need a routine to help them. 

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