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aspergers, obsessions and parents who don't communicate...HELP!!

stepmumtroubles

I have a 5 year old step son who has an obsession with plants vs zombies. His mother was told by the health visitor (apparently) that he shouldn't be playing this game, during a time that she couldn't provide the game for him. Now that she can she has gone and bought him a tablet for Christmas which will give him unlimited access to his obsession. He will literally play this game from the minute he wakes up until the minute he goes to sleep. My husband (his father) just doesn't seem to say anything even though he says to me that he sees it as an issue. My step son seems to have now taken a step backwards with his behaviours and obsessions and as the step mother (and the person who made them aware that there might be an issue with autism) my opinion means nothing and it's so frustrating to have to deal with this especially being pregnant myself. Is there any one in a similar situation to me? Or any one who can advise me on something to do?! 

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  • I am not 100% sure because I am having to just go off what we are told by the mother as we are never invited to health visitor appointments etc. It is a violent game and the health visitor had apparently said that he shouldn't play on it because one of the main issues in school was that he was incredibly aggressive and violent towards other children. My issue is not that he plays on the computer, because we use it as a reward system when he is at our house. However at her house it is a tool to just keep him quiet and out of the way all the time. I just want more age appropriate games for him. We had stopped him playing on plants vs zombies and put up with the bad temper and as soon as he is seen as "getting better" she gives him the game back which then sets him back again. I am not blaming her 100% but it feels like we are fighting a losing battle and with neither of them communicating with each other properly it gets frustrating for me because I can see the set backs where they just seem happy to ignore it...surely that's not in his best interest

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  • I am not 100% sure because I am having to just go off what we are told by the mother as we are never invited to health visitor appointments etc. It is a violent game and the health visitor had apparently said that he shouldn't play on it because one of the main issues in school was that he was incredibly aggressive and violent towards other children. My issue is not that he plays on the computer, because we use it as a reward system when he is at our house. However at her house it is a tool to just keep him quiet and out of the way all the time. I just want more age appropriate games for him. We had stopped him playing on plants vs zombies and put up with the bad temper and as soon as he is seen as "getting better" she gives him the game back which then sets him back again. I am not blaming her 100% but it feels like we are fighting a losing battle and with neither of them communicating with each other properly it gets frustrating for me because I can see the set backs where they just seem happy to ignore it...surely that's not in his best interest

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