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motivation

bootsy

Has anyone got any tips to help motivate my 14 yr old son?

He has many talents and is very able but I feel frustrated when he lacks the motivation or belief in himself. He has had CBT to help with this but a lack of self belief and self worth is very hard to change.  It's a viscious circle - if he attempted something in spite of his negative thoughts, over time he might begin to value his attempts. If you know what I mean.

One good thing - his ADHD used to stop him from enjoying reading but the first time ever, he has just found the joy in reading. Also, he is a brilliant writer and he is just beginning to make attempts at writing but he loses interest quickly, which in turn, causes him to feel bad about himself even more.

 

I would appreciate any tips that might help me to help him, thank you.

 

Bootsy

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  • Hi bootsy,

     

    My son is 16 has AS and Dyspraxia and to be honest i couldnt motivate him in anything that he didnt  an interest in, like trying to get him to study for exams was a complete nightmare. In the end I did a structured study programme that was timetabled and i had to supervise at all times because he could not self motivate. I now find it is better to encourage him be motivated as much as possible in the areas that do interest him for example he is now studying film at college. so he is getting a camera from santa nd has subscribed to film mgzines and I have found that this motivation does then spill over to other areas.

     

    However i have recently also had arguments with my 14year old son who is not autistic over his bad attitude and lack of willingness to study, his prelims/mocks are in a month. So I think this is also a teenage thing!lol!

    dont know if any of this is helpfull, best of luck

    sam

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  • Hi bootsy,

     

    My son is 16 has AS and Dyspraxia and to be honest i couldnt motivate him in anything that he didnt  an interest in, like trying to get him to study for exams was a complete nightmare. In the end I did a structured study programme that was timetabled and i had to supervise at all times because he could not self motivate. I now find it is better to encourage him be motivated as much as possible in the areas that do interest him for example he is now studying film at college. so he is getting a camera from santa nd has subscribed to film mgzines and I have found that this motivation does then spill over to other areas.

     

    However i have recently also had arguments with my 14year old son who is not autistic over his bad attitude and lack of willingness to study, his prelims/mocks are in a month. So I think this is also a teenage thing!lol!

    dont know if any of this is helpfull, best of luck

    sam

    x

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