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bootsy

Has anyone got any tips to help motivate my 14 yr old son?

He has many talents and is very able but I feel frustrated when he lacks the motivation or belief in himself. He has had CBT to help with this but a lack of self belief and self worth is very hard to change.  It's a viscious circle - if he attempted something in spite of his negative thoughts, over time he might begin to value his attempts. If you know what I mean.

One good thing - his ADHD used to stop him from enjoying reading but the first time ever, he has just found the joy in reading. Also, he is a brilliant writer and he is just beginning to make attempts at writing but he loses interest quickly, which in turn, causes him to feel bad about himself even more.

 

I would appreciate any tips that might help me to help him, thank you.

 

Bootsy

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  • Thank you, Tadie123,

     

    It feels very supportive to know we are not the only ones with this struggle.  I do agree with you wholeheartedly. I do always praise the smallest thing - always have done - he hears me and sometimes he says 'thank you', because it makes him feel a little better but the feeling doesn't stay with him. Do you find that, too?

    You really seem to know what it feels like, to be exhausted from trying to constantly create a positive atmosphere and look miserable or 'down' in his presence. I have a dog too. I live on my own with my son and not being able to share worry is a strain; so, thank you again. It's great to share.  My first time on this community thing! Glad I tried it!

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  • Thank you, Tadie123,

     

    It feels very supportive to know we are not the only ones with this struggle.  I do agree with you wholeheartedly. I do always praise the smallest thing - always have done - he hears me and sometimes he says 'thank you', because it makes him feel a little better but the feeling doesn't stay with him. Do you find that, too?

    You really seem to know what it feels like, to be exhausted from trying to constantly create a positive atmosphere and look miserable or 'down' in his presence. I have a dog too. I live on my own with my son and not being able to share worry is a strain; so, thank you again. It's great to share.  My first time on this community thing! Glad I tried it!

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