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Obsession with Gaming and Computers - 9 year old

KathS

Hello all

We have a 9 year old boy, funny and bright, however hes becoming more and more reluctant to do anything other than go on his computer / intenet / play station etc. We have tried to limit its use, however, he simply isnt interested in anything else for longer than say half hour and he's an only child so has no siblings to play with.

My worry is that is he will become withdrawn from normaility and his ability to communicate and interact with others will lessen.

He's up at 7am and on a weekend would quite happily sit in front of a screen till bed at 7pm.

I know that this also is not good for his eyes and as he wears headphones, is bad for his ears. My partner (who is his bilogical dad, I am not his birth mum), is frustrated too, and says 'what am I meant to do with him?' when I state that we have to get him off the computer. I dont know what the answer is as he doesnt want to join school clubs (eg football or rugby or cubs), he just wants to play on his computer.

Obviously there is a lot of fuss and tantrums when he do make him come away.

This is just one 'challenge' , he's not doing so well at his mainstream school, his learning falling behind and his teachers telling us they dont know what to do with him, although he has SEN funding. But thats another problem for another post.

Any ideas please?

Thanks

Kathryn

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  • hi i have aspergers and adhd and so ahs my step son i was addictive to gaming and so is my son whos 16 ,were i got angry he gets suicidal u find when u read up on kids/teens with aspergers /adhd that u carnt allow them to hide and just have one focus as they will struggle in adulthood.say you go out front on bike for hr but he only manages 10 mins before he is realy anxious not just paniking so to spk then at least he learnt to overcom tht one step and u just carry on bit by bit .let him have tech time but time manage it to 2 hrs but when he done somethink gd like school wok help with pets etc as reward u can add time to gaming we do this with so and once he relised we wasent changing our minds he accepted it and now doesnt have a limit as we r able to call him of it without a melt down and he is learning the piorities and hobbies so once chores and school work done rest was free time for him .u have to be to piont but calm and consitant it took us 12 months to get were we r and he is happier and less anxious and able to go out get food etc so even though u say ur kids r happy u still need to teach them life skills etc otherwise u could end p with how my son was wettiing himself cuz he could bring himself away from technology,not drinking ,short temper,would skip meals ,not sleep and we thought he was happy but actualy they not they think they are . but after the first stone of fall outs its worth it honest  

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  • hi i have aspergers and adhd and so ahs my step son i was addictive to gaming and so is my son whos 16 ,were i got angry he gets suicidal u find when u read up on kids/teens with aspergers /adhd that u carnt allow them to hide and just have one focus as they will struggle in adulthood.say you go out front on bike for hr but he only manages 10 mins before he is realy anxious not just paniking so to spk then at least he learnt to overcom tht one step and u just carry on bit by bit .let him have tech time but time manage it to 2 hrs but when he done somethink gd like school wok help with pets etc as reward u can add time to gaming we do this with so and once he relised we wasent changing our minds he accepted it and now doesnt have a limit as we r able to call him of it without a melt down and he is learning the piorities and hobbies so once chores and school work done rest was free time for him .u have to be to piont but calm and consitant it took us 12 months to get were we r and he is happier and less anxious and able to go out get food etc so even though u say ur kids r happy u still need to teach them life skills etc otherwise u could end p with how my son was wettiing himself cuz he could bring himself away from technology,not drinking ,short temper,would skip meals ,not sleep and we thought he was happy but actualy they not they think they are . but after the first stone of fall outs its worth it honest  

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