Hi
My eight year old Autistic daughter (awaiting assessment) is in extreme burnout and as such isn't currently attending school. She has significant anxiety.
CAMHS saw her for her first appt two weeks ago and now that psychologist is leaving so hasn't arranged further appts as he doesn't want to build a relationship then leave her. We are awaiting a new psychologist and a plan but this could be weeks. Then obviously 'treatment' will likely be months.
School are understanding and have agreed to send work home which is optional and will put a reduced timetable in place once she can return. We do not have an EHCP yet.
She is currently unable to wear clothes, eat properly, brush teeth and hair regularly, she's stopped engaging with her hobbies, is nauseous most of the time and rarely leaves the house. Currently we spend 90% of the day watching her favourite TV and trying to avoid meltdown. She can no longer mask.
My question is what should I be doing? I am concerned she's missing out on school, life, friendships etc and the further behind she is the harder it'll be to return.
I cannot homeschool. I am looking at different provisions just in case. I am also in touch with a tutor to help her keep up as she has very low self esteem and it will be damaging to go back to school feeling 'stupid' from being behind.
Do I just let her watch TV and lay around all day until she asks to do more? Or do I gently push her?
I am also AuDHD and I am really struggling without routine and being stuck in the house every day.
I am so lost and concerned I am failing her in some way. I 1000% understand what burnout is and how it has come about but in the dark on how to approach recovery.
Cheers
GF