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Feeling lonely

Keira

Hi im new here and honestly im going through such a rubbish time. Ive never really had support from my family or kids dad's. I dont have many friends(actually only have 2) and even they dont make a effort.

Im stuck in the house all day, my partner works so hes out all day till gone 6pm. I dont drive so cant go for a drive, go find a quiet spot where my son will be safe and I dont have to have extreme anxiety..

me and my partners relationship is strained to we are arguing alot. probably because im feeling so rubbish and am taking it out on him.. im literally stuck in and no one visits me. I have to visit them or else i wont see anyone.

Ive rung my mum today cause i needed a chat and to vent about my friend telling me this morning to come and see her this week when all last week i asked her and she didnt bother, her kids go to there grandparents every weekend to so its not like it would be hard for her to come and see me at the weekend..

To then see shes sat with my nan, my auntie and my brother and his kids(my brother n the kids are abit differant because hes staying with my mum atm till he can afford somewhere) and soon will be my aunties boyfriend and kids all enjoying themselves and I just feel so left out and rubbish. So I didnt tell her and got of the phone pretty quick. 

I already know my mum doesnt bother with me and my kids she wont help with them and says she cant deal with my son on her own and i just try to put it to the back of my mind cause shes my mum and i love her but shes just as bad.

Why does no one want to visit me? So sick of crying and feeling so lonely 

  • Hi Keira - welcome to the community!

    Unfortunately, it's not uncommon for us to feel lonely and isolated.

    Alongside chatting with all of us here, you might find some of the advice in these articles helpful:

    NAS - Loneliness - includes links to other examples of autistic people's experiences of loneliness and how they cope.

    NAS - Making friends - a guide for autistic adults

    You might like to consider asking your GP for a referral to your local social prescriber. Or just ask the GP’s admin team, who might be able to tell you how to self refer. A social prescriber’s (non-medical) role is to develop a personalised care and support plan that meets your social, practical, and emotional needs.

    That could include helping you to find local befriending groups or socialising activities, for example, if that’s something that you'd like to explore. The article below explains more (it relates to England, but - for other readers - the same model operates throughout the UK):

    NHS England - Social prescribing

    You might also be able to find some socialising opportunities via the the NAS's directory, or through a local or online NAS branch:

    NAS - Autism Services Directory

    NAS - Branches

    As a final couple of suggestions, you could:

    - Search on Facebook and/or Google for any local groups that might fit with your interests and hobbies.

    - Perhaps find some online games you enjoy that also include a social element (eg perhaps they have an associated chat group, or a built-in ways to socialise - like chatting in the game itself).