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15 year old daughter struggles to socialise

Jkoppen

My 15 year old autistic daughter struggles to socialise. She talks about friends at school but very rarely socialises with anyone outside of school. She has always struggled to maintain friendships. Does anyone have any advice on how I can encourage her to socialise and build bonds with other children her age please 

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  • Hi and welcome to the community.

    I suggest being careful to centre your daughter's own preferences - and her view of her capacity - within your approach.

    As we grow up, educational and social demands can increase (eg more challenging school work, greater expectations around socialising) - and the detrimental impacts of any masking, including in social settings, can become more significant (eg mental health, self-esteem):

    NAS - Masking

    Perhaps a good start might be to ask what her goals are in respect of friendships and socialising, and what she feels would be manageable in terms of meeting them? 

    In addition to what Zac Mod has already suggested, you and your daughter might find the following set of resources helpful:

    NAS - Resources for autistic teenagers > Know Yourself series

    This is a set of free resources (videos, PDFs, worksheets) to support autistic teenagers in understanding what being autistic means to them, and includes sections - for example - on understanding others, and energy accounting. There are also plenty of links to further resources that you and your daughter might find helpful.

    In case you haven't yet seen them, there are also some great resources here about getting extra help and support at - and beyond - school:

    NAS - Education

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  • Hi and welcome to the community.

    I suggest being careful to centre your daughter's own preferences - and her view of her capacity - within your approach.

    As we grow up, educational and social demands can increase (eg more challenging school work, greater expectations around socialising) - and the detrimental impacts of any masking, including in social settings, can become more significant (eg mental health, self-esteem):

    NAS - Masking

    Perhaps a good start might be to ask what her goals are in respect of friendships and socialising, and what she feels would be manageable in terms of meeting them? 

    In addition to what Zac Mod has already suggested, you and your daughter might find the following set of resources helpful:

    NAS - Resources for autistic teenagers > Know Yourself series

    This is a set of free resources (videos, PDFs, worksheets) to support autistic teenagers in understanding what being autistic means to them, and includes sections - for example - on understanding others, and energy accounting. There are also plenty of links to further resources that you and your daughter might find helpful.

    In case you haven't yet seen them, there are also some great resources here about getting extra help and support at - and beyond - school:

    NAS - Education

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