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Help ASD person make friends?

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Hi there

I'd like to ask about strategies for a young person with ASD regarding making friends. This youngster has made it to college but has not (in 19 years) ever been able to make friends. Perpetually lonely. Not sure how much detail to go into here - I'd say hyper anxious, looks 'disconnected' in social situations, doesn't enjoy stimulating environments (parties, crowds), looks and behaves young for years. But highly amusing, tries incredibly hard at everything, is caring. Aware of own perceived 'shortcomings'.

Has anyone managed to overcome or help someone to overcome this situation?

Does anything help? 

Thanks for reading.

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  • Thanks. I have heard from Longman before and thank him for the contribution. Possibly harsh, but I'm missing body language having just the bald words on a forum to go by. :) I have probably been too sparing with detail just not to bore people. We're aware this is not a curable 'condition'. And as you rightly say RS, it is indeed about making the most of the situation, which is what we've always done.

    After 19 years, very much understand all the stuff about verbal cues, eye contact and sensory overload that Longman points to. The picture he paints is totally recognisable to us, except we hope there is more hope than he implies, given encouragement and help.

    Not actually meddling - just still trying to help our youngster who says every day they are lonely and can't make friends and asks how it can be done.

    Thanks so much Recombinant Socks (I think I can guess what those are!) for your book suggestion. Will be most interested to investigate...

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  • Thanks. I have heard from Longman before and thank him for the contribution. Possibly harsh, but I'm missing body language having just the bald words on a forum to go by. :) I have probably been too sparing with detail just not to bore people. We're aware this is not a curable 'condition'. And as you rightly say RS, it is indeed about making the most of the situation, which is what we've always done.

    After 19 years, very much understand all the stuff about verbal cues, eye contact and sensory overload that Longman points to. The picture he paints is totally recognisable to us, except we hope there is more hope than he implies, given encouragement and help.

    Not actually meddling - just still trying to help our youngster who says every day they are lonely and can't make friends and asks how it can be done.

    Thanks so much Recombinant Socks (I think I can guess what those are!) for your book suggestion. Will be most interested to investigate...

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