Driving instructors

Socks,

By the child I meant Beemans son. Not a child as in an infant. Sorry, a little vague on my part.

Personally, I'd trial a few other instructors. In past experience i've found you need to gel with a tutor. It could be that his son now has associative feelings toward the original instructor and this is blocking his progress. My own youngest son has this in his School setting. A subject he formally was making good progress in has now become anxiety provoking for him because he doesn't gel with the tutor. The tutor does not know how to access his interest anymore and the tension has mounted. My son can no longer look at the subject in the same way because he associates the teacher with anxiety. Unless he moves teacher, he won't make much progress in this subject.

I would still use the visual aids as they do offer snapshot picture senarios, which are often more easily fixed in the mind than the often confusing rush of traffic that one can encounters during a lesson. Once these images are fixed, encountering the real life senarios can become more manageble as you are able to draw from your memory store. Using the CD's has helped my own son with this very much. Aside from roundabouts, which I only just learnt about recently. (The rule of giving way to your right was not clear in his mind and he felt roundabouts represented a 'free for all') He has used the senario images to help him on the road. For most on the spectrum practicing senarios of what they may encounter even in communication with others, is very important. If a senario pops up that you don't expect, anxiety looms large.

I could be wrong, but I remember a thread a short while back from a lad who was talking about his lessons and the continuous assurances that he would have greater freedom in the end, which he found very infuriating. I'm not sure if this is related to Beemans post, but it may be worth finding.

If Beemans son needs a break then that's fine, but you need to be sure that a break does not become a barrier or block. Breaking the cycle of anxiety that has built up over sometime and has clearly escallated, needs some careful thought and planning.

My own son has had some success with NLP over cyclic anxiety and it has allowed him to re-access public transport following a serious trauma, but he has now decided to learn to drive to further limit the likelyhood of him being assaulted again.( He suffered another assult earlier this year.) It's worth considering if this level of independance in being able to drive a car, is important to his son. As adults, we can see the advantages and freedoms it not only offer us, but also our children. From Beemans, sons standpoint he cannot see this.

Driving isn't for everyone, but having options and alternative strategies maybe the key!

Good Luck Beeman and good luck to your son.

Coogybear

Socks,

By the child I meant Beemans son. Not a child as in an infant. Sorry, a little vague on my part.

Personally, I'd trial a few other instructors. In past experience i've found you need to gel with a tutor. It could be that his son now has associative feelings toward the original instructor and this is blocking his progress. My own youngest son has this in his School setting. A subject he formally was making good progress in has now become anxiety provoking for him because he doesn't gel with the tutor. The tutor does not know how to access his interest anymore and the tension has mounted. My son can no longer look at the subject in the same way because he associates the teacher with anxiety. Unless he moves teacher, he won't make much progress in this subject.

I would still use the visual aids as they do offer snapshot picture senarios, which are often more easily fixed in the mind than the often confusing rush of traffic that one can encounters during a lesson. Once these images are fixed, encountering the real life senarios can become more manageble as you are able to draw from your memory store. Using the CD's has helped my own son with this very much. Aside from roundabouts, which I only just learnt about recently. (The rule of giving way to your right was not clear in his mind and he felt roundabouts represented a 'free for all') He has used the senario images to help him on the road. For most on the spectrum practicing senarios of what they may encounter even in communication with others, is very important. If a senario pops up that you don't expect, anxiety looms large.

I could be wrong, but I remember a thread a short while back from a lad who was talking about his lessons and the continuous assurances that he would have greater freedom in the end, which he found very infuriating. I'm not sure if this is related to Beemans post, but it may be worth finding.

If Beemans son needs a break then that's fine, but you need to be sure that a break does not become a barrier or block. Breaking the cycle of anxiety that has built up over sometime and has clearly escallated, needs some careful thought and planning.

My own son has had some success with NLP over cyclic anxiety and it has allowed him to re-access public transport following a serious trauma, but he has now decided to learn to drive to further limit the likelyhood of him being assaulted again.( He suffered another assult earlier this year.) It's worth considering if this level of independance in being able to drive a car, is important to his son. As adults, we can see the advantages and freedoms it not only offer us, but also our children. From Beemans, sons standpoint he cannot see this.

Driving isn't for everyone, but having options and alternative strategies maybe the key!

Good Luck Beeman and good luck to your son.

Coogybear