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please share how your child has changed as they grew older

ccollier

Hi, My daughter is almost 3 and has just been diagnosed. Health professionals seem reluctant to give any indication as to what her future potential might be. Please could anyone share what their child was like as a toddler and how they have changed.

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  • Health professionals cannot tell you one way or another how your child will be in 5, 10 or 20 years time as doing so could give you false beliefs which may affect how you parent your child.

    The journey your child faces depends on many factors which are unique to her.  Much will depend on how she responds to her environment, the interventions available to her and how you as a family deal with the challenges ahead.  Strategies that work for one child may not work for her, so her path will depend on so many things.

    I am interested in knowing why you asked the question? I have met  many people with younger children than my own and they see how well mine are doing and  it gives them hope, and it worries me that they may judge  their child based on what they see in others.  So for example I am careful not to tell them the difficulties my children face because it may upset them and they resign themselves to believing that their child will be the same, which may not be the case.

    My advice is not to dwell too much on the tomorrow and enjoy today.  Enjoy the uniqueness of your child, spend some time in their world.  I love seeing things from my son's perspective and their sense of humour and non judgemental way of looking at the world makes me feel blessed to be their mum.

    Try not to worry.

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  • Health professionals cannot tell you one way or another how your child will be in 5, 10 or 20 years time as doing so could give you false beliefs which may affect how you parent your child.

    The journey your child faces depends on many factors which are unique to her.  Much will depend on how she responds to her environment, the interventions available to her and how you as a family deal with the challenges ahead.  Strategies that work for one child may not work for her, so her path will depend on so many things.

    I am interested in knowing why you asked the question? I have met  many people with younger children than my own and they see how well mine are doing and  it gives them hope, and it worries me that they may judge  their child based on what they see in others.  So for example I am careful not to tell them the difficulties my children face because it may upset them and they resign themselves to believing that their child will be the same, which may not be the case.

    My advice is not to dwell too much on the tomorrow and enjoy today.  Enjoy the uniqueness of your child, spend some time in their world.  I love seeing things from my son's perspective and their sense of humour and non judgemental way of looking at the world makes me feel blessed to be their mum.

    Try not to worry.

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