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I can't be the mum she needs

Kool_kat

I got diagnosed about a month ago. Part of the reason I went for the assessment was because I see my little girl (age 5) struggling like i did. She reminds me so much of myself. 

I desperately want to be the mum that I needed as a child but I genuinely dont think I can.

I get frustrated at her random noises.

I get annoyed when she complains about feeling the seams in her socks and then refuses to wear them.

I get annoyed when she will only eat beige foods.

Im exhausted from constantly getting up in the night with her because shes anxious. I try so, so hard to be patient and give her the reassurance that she needs but I need sleep too. 

I am trying so hard and I usually start the days off ok. But by 5pm when ive spent all day being overwhelmed, masking, being touched by my 3 year old etc, I just can't keep calm. And that's usually when she needs me the most when shes home from school and needs me. 

I dont know what to do. I know im a terrible mum. 

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  • Try and focus on your daughter's strenghts. I want to tell you soon your 3 year old daughter will be at school to and you raised a 5 year old to school and your youngest child is on the way. I looked after children for over 10 years my sisters children and many young children are picky eaters and not all are autistic. One of nephews would just eat bread, cheese and drink milk. He is a well rounded eater now. I knew he was wonderfully sensitive though as soon as I started looking after him.

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  • Try and focus on your daughter's strenghts. I want to tell you soon your 3 year old daughter will be at school to and you raised a 5 year old to school and your youngest child is on the way. I looked after children for over 10 years my sisters children and many young children are picky eaters and not all are autistic. One of nephews would just eat bread, cheese and drink milk. He is a well rounded eater now. I knew he was wonderfully sensitive though as soon as I started looking after him.

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