Thank you everyone for your helpful advice. I mistyped the question and meant that my husband is bothered by what others think of our Son who’s Autistic. If any would can help it would be much appreciated
Both my wife and I experience judgement from others, sometimes its our perception building on previous trauma, sometimes it is very very real. I am diagnosed ASC, she is seeking assessment for ADHD possibly, we both have along history of being bullied, disempowered, insulted etc.
We, as others have said, have built an f you approach, in appropriate circumstances. Also we are working on supporting each other when these things happen. But its ever so hard and there are days when one of feels that the whole world hates us. Its harder when we are both feeling unjustly criticised or invalidated, so we are working together on some DBT skills, eg taking a long pause before reacting, or firing off messages and emails. We try to check the facts and having in most cases each other to objectively say how they saw it makes this especially useful.
This is I know only helpful in a relationship similar to ours and I know finding to a special person is extremely difficult and painful. Im 68 and she is 60, we met in 2022 so are making up for lost time.
One applicable takeaway could be to check out self help DBT (dialectical behaviour therapy).
Thank you. have to say I admire the way you and your Wife support each other to cope in a world that often isn’t understanding or sadly tolerant of Neurodivergent people, . It sounds as if the way others treat you can be very difficult for you both at times.
Thank you. have to say I admire the way you and your Wife support each other to cope in a world that often isn’t understanding or sadly tolerant of Neurodivergent people, . It sounds as if the way others treat you can be very difficult for you both at times.
