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struggling mum

Im sorry to ask for your insights and help once again I just don't know what to do. My sons due to start secondary school next week - a big transition for him. To cut a long story short he gets transport as is outside the catchment area. This transport has been mostly ok until big disruption in June when they declared they'd only pick up/drop off at home address (8.30 & 3pm). Managed to get back to my sons normal routine of them dropping him at his childminder three days so didn't pursue further at that time. Now they are flat out refusing to continue this advising only the home address.

The reasons this is catastrophic is because as a single parent if I don't work I can't support us. His had enough to deal with without me being unable to support us. We'd lose our home and everything. Whats more he has an amazing relationship with his childminder and that would go too. I have begged and pleaded with the council and sent complaints to everyone I can think of but I'm running out of time. I can't send him to a different school because this is the only one that has a unit within the school that would fully support him without him feeling singled out. It feels the council are trying to force me out of work. Surely having a child with additional needs doesn't mean you can't work?

Please forgive me for saying but its been such a challenging year that I have seriously struggled to get through on more than one occassion. I feel so alone. This has been a massive blow and just one too many. If I can hold it together I will challenge them again tomorrow but feel I have no dignity left. Has anyone else had this problem and please help me reach a resolution. This as I say is a big transition for him and the last thing I wanted is the disruption this will cause if a resolution can't be reached tomorrow. 

Thanks in advance x

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  • Thank you for your replies and insights always appreciated. Thank-you Yorkshirelass, I feel your pain with the length of time diagnosis takes and the implications of this. I hope its resolved for you soon.

    Thank-you socks, it has been a real rollercoaster thats still going but nothing can be as bad as that time but thankful we seem through that now. You haven't offended me its very difficult with email and text to express meaning but I value all comments and the time taken to respond. Your point on a calm and reasonable approach is a very good one - unfortuately I have already tried that by explaining calmly the impact this policy has and requesting reconsideration. Its only because they refuse to listen and the impact it has on my son and I and other families in this position that I feel I must take it further. 

    Thank-you also Outraged and Dor for your good suggestions. Unfortunatley because the childminder has other children she can't uproot them to my address to meet my son. I also don't know anyone local that could step in. 

    Good news, despite it being the weekend I have already had a tweet from my local MP inviting me for a meeting to discuss and the local councilor for further information. I have email the whole story to both and others. 

    My son starts on Wednesday and I can't bring myself to tell him he can't use the childminder atm nor do I know what to do about work. I am considering very limited options but I will limit the impact on him as much as I can. I will get this policy of not allowing use of a childminder changed. Putting me out of work and onto benefits against my will is a complete waste of taxpayers money, would completely destroy everything my son knows (his home etc) and his routine and I will not allow this to happen so I will fight until my son can continue with what he knows and I can continue to support us. Wish me luck :-)

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  • Thank you for your replies and insights always appreciated. Thank-you Yorkshirelass, I feel your pain with the length of time diagnosis takes and the implications of this. I hope its resolved for you soon.

    Thank-you socks, it has been a real rollercoaster thats still going but nothing can be as bad as that time but thankful we seem through that now. You haven't offended me its very difficult with email and text to express meaning but I value all comments and the time taken to respond. Your point on a calm and reasonable approach is a very good one - unfortuately I have already tried that by explaining calmly the impact this policy has and requesting reconsideration. Its only because they refuse to listen and the impact it has on my son and I and other families in this position that I feel I must take it further. 

    Thank-you also Outraged and Dor for your good suggestions. Unfortunatley because the childminder has other children she can't uproot them to my address to meet my son. I also don't know anyone local that could step in. 

    Good news, despite it being the weekend I have already had a tweet from my local MP inviting me for a meeting to discuss and the local councilor for further information. I have email the whole story to both and others. 

    My son starts on Wednesday and I can't bring myself to tell him he can't use the childminder atm nor do I know what to do about work. I am considering very limited options but I will limit the impact on him as much as I can. I will get this policy of not allowing use of a childminder changed. Putting me out of work and onto benefits against my will is a complete waste of taxpayers money, would completely destroy everything my son knows (his home etc) and his routine and I will not allow this to happen so I will fight until my son can continue with what he knows and I can continue to support us. Wish me luck :-)

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