Published on 12, July, 2020
hi
does anyone know how to discipline a asd child? my 4 year old son is very hyperactive and quick to aggression. so as you can imagine he is very easily upset and quick to have a meltdown. i am trying to catch it before he has a meltdown but it can be so quick it can be impossible to stop. i know his triggers but can not always eliminate them for example like his little sister crying. i generally use timeout for any hitting but when he gets worked up i know he finds it hard to not hit. also if i did put him on timeout when having a meltdown it would just esculate the problem. at the moment when he has a meltdown i first do what i can to calm him down and feel better. but when he is then calm what do i do to then get him to realise that he can't hurt people? he is also so heavyhanded when playing and doesn't realise he is hurting other children. i don't know what to do. i don't want him to hurt people and lose friends as he is already saying to me he's noticed he's different to other people, losing friends would make it harder for him.
Can I endorse what KaloJaro and recombinantsocks have said. This is a website for people on the spectrum and parents/families. There is a wealth of knowledge on here which resolves some of the solutions you seek.
Those of us on here on the spectrum don't do well in conventional socialisation and cannot readily identify the niceties needed in a world that isn't always nice to us.
You will get good advice on here, but it is unfair to ask us to deliver it in terms of your world, which is full of conventions and preliminaries and dos and donts, when it is not a world we are able to share.