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Going on holiday or not?

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Hi all. I am after some advice on this regarding a holiday this year. For the last 2 years my daughter has hated our family holidays. One causing shingles due to stress. She is 14 and struggles to leave the house, doesn’t attend school but has a home tutor. We work hard and feel we need a break, so our holiday each year is really important to us parents as it allows us to reset. It’s not a selfish thing, it’s just how we manage with our life. This yeaR my daughter is point blank refusing to come away with us. We holidayed last yr in the UK to reduce stress but she didn’t the room of the lodge. My question is, would you go away and leave her out of the family holiday? She naturally wouldn’t be leave alone, family members would come and stay, but the guilt I am feeling over this is pulling me in both directions. Has anyone gone away with their child due to their anxiety and continued to have a family holiday whilst one child is left behind? I’m don’t want judging I just want advice or personal experience from others whom may be in a similar situation Pray

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  • I think you deserve holidays, maybe someone from your family, who she trusts could take care of your daughter and also make sure she aldo has holidays on her own (do something she likes) I remember being forced on family holiday, I suffered and they suffered with my meltdown that lasted few days. I was older already but then we decided that next time I will stay home. Earlier I used to go holidays with my grandparents to visit our family in the mountains,  it was also stressful to some degree but when I got used to, it was better and there I had space and time for myself, so it was OK. Someone here suggested NAS article with advice in this topic, but If going for holidays with your daughter is impossible, and she prefers staying home- it's worth trying. You also need rest. Till this very day I hate holidays and whenever I can I choose to stay home and rest on my own.

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  • I think you deserve holidays, maybe someone from your family, who she trusts could take care of your daughter and also make sure she aldo has holidays on her own (do something she likes) I remember being forced on family holiday, I suffered and they suffered with my meltdown that lasted few days. I was older already but then we decided that next time I will stay home. Earlier I used to go holidays with my grandparents to visit our family in the mountains,  it was also stressful to some degree but when I got used to, it was better and there I had space and time for myself, so it was OK. Someone here suggested NAS article with advice in this topic, but If going for holidays with your daughter is impossible, and she prefers staying home- it's worth trying. You also need rest. Till this very day I hate holidays and whenever I can I choose to stay home and rest on my own.

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