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Going on holiday or not?

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Hi all. I am after some advice on this regarding a holiday this year. For the last 2 years my daughter has hated our family holidays. One causing shingles due to stress. She is 14 and struggles to leave the house, doesn’t attend school but has a home tutor. We work hard and feel we need a break, so our holiday each year is really important to us parents as it allows us to reset. It’s not a selfish thing, it’s just how we manage with our life. This yeaR my daughter is point blank refusing to come away with us. We holidayed last yr in the UK to reduce stress but she didn’t the room of the lodge. My question is, would you go away and leave her out of the family holiday? She naturally wouldn’t be leave alone, family members would come and stay, but the guilt I am feeling over this is pulling me in both directions. Has anyone gone away with their child due to their anxiety and continued to have a family holiday whilst one child is left behind? I’m don’t want judging I just want advice or personal experience from others whom may be in a similar situation Pray

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  • I think if your daughter is happy to stay home if she has trusted people that she likes to stay with her then I think it’s ok for you to have your holiday. As long as you feel completely sure that she is genuinely happy with that - then I think that’s a really good solution. The holiday will do you good, and if you’re in a good frame of mind that’s helpful for her too to have a parent who feels rested rather than frustrated that she can’t go in a much needed holiday.

    None of you need to feel guilty if everyone wishes and needs are being respected. 

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  • I think if your daughter is happy to stay home if she has trusted people that she likes to stay with her then I think it’s ok for you to have your holiday. As long as you feel completely sure that she is genuinely happy with that - then I think that’s a really good solution. The holiday will do you good, and if you’re in a good frame of mind that’s helpful for her too to have a parent who feels rested rather than frustrated that she can’t go in a much needed holiday.

    None of you need to feel guilty if everyone wishes and needs are being respected. 

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