Going on holiday or not?

Hi all. I am after some advice on this regarding a holiday this year. For the last 2 years my daughter has hated our family holidays. One causing shingles due to stress. She is 14 and struggles to leave the house, doesn’t attend school but has a home tutor. We work hard and feel we need a break, so our holiday each year is really important to us parents as it allows us to reset. It’s not a selfish thing, it’s just how we manage with our life. This yeaR my daughter is point blank refusing to come away with us. We holidayed last yr in the UK to reduce stress but she didn’t the room of the lodge. My question is, would you go away and leave her out of the family holiday? She naturally wouldn’t be leave alone, family members would come and stay, but the guilt I am feeling over this is pulling me in both directions. Has anyone gone away with their child due to their anxiety and continued to have a family holiday whilst one child is left behind? I’m don’t want judging I just want advice or personal experience from others whom may be in a similar situation Pray

Parents
  • Can I just thank you all for your kind words today. This is not the Normal response I get from friends and I didn’t actually realise this forum would be. It’s my first time of posting so was nervous but it’s like you had all walked in my schools and you are not judging me for wanting a break. Thank You all from the bottom of my heart Heart️ 

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  • Can I just thank you all for your kind words today. This is not the Normal response I get from friends and I didn’t actually realise this forum would be. It’s my first time of posting so was nervous but it’s like you had all walked in my schools and you are not judging me for wanting a break. Thank You all from the bottom of my heart Heart️ 

Children
  • You're so very welcome, we know we can be hard work, many of us have children so we know how stressful parenting can be. 

    Why on earth would anyone judge you for wanting a break? People can be so stupid and careless at times, often they're the same ones with herds of family that seem willing to drop everything and take-over at a moments notice, if only we were all so lucky.