Going on holiday or not?

Hi all. I am after some advice on this regarding a holiday this year. For the last 2 years my daughter has hated our family holidays. One causing shingles due to stress. She is 14 and struggles to leave the house, doesn’t attend school but has a home tutor. We work hard and feel we need a break, so our holiday each year is really important to us parents as it allows us to reset. It’s not a selfish thing, it’s just how we manage with our life. This yeaR my daughter is point blank refusing to come away with us. We holidayed last yr in the UK to reduce stress but she didn’t the room of the lodge. My question is, would you go away and leave her out of the family holiday? She naturally wouldn’t be leave alone, family members would come and stay, but the guilt I am feeling over this is pulling me in both directions. Has anyone gone away with their child due to their anxiety and continued to have a family holiday whilst one child is left behind? I’m don’t want judging I just want advice or personal experience from others whom may be in a similar situation Pray

Parents
  • Rather than feeling guilty, you could turn it around:
    If you and your husband don't have a break for years, you won't be able to cope and then she will be worse off. So this is not a negative in the big scheme of things. It is a positive so she can continue.

    Rather than compare to others, just do what is right and works for your family. Assuming you can find a solution.

    Could she stay with grandparents, or is that not possible?

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  • Rather than feeling guilty, you could turn it around:
    If you and your husband don't have a break for years, you won't be able to cope and then she will be worse off. So this is not a negative in the big scheme of things. It is a positive so she can continue.

    Rather than compare to others, just do what is right and works for your family. Assuming you can find a solution.

    Could she stay with grandparents, or is that not possible?

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