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Going on holiday or not?

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Hi all. I am after some advice on this regarding a holiday this year. For the last 2 years my daughter has hated our family holidays. One causing shingles due to stress. She is 14 and struggles to leave the house, doesn’t attend school but has a home tutor. We work hard and feel we need a break, so our holiday each year is really important to us parents as it allows us to reset. It’s not a selfish thing, it’s just how we manage with our life. This yeaR my daughter is point blank refusing to come away with us. We holidayed last yr in the UK to reduce stress but she didn’t the room of the lodge. My question is, would you go away and leave her out of the family holiday? She naturally wouldn’t be leave alone, family members would come and stay, but the guilt I am feeling over this is pulling me in both directions. Has anyone gone away with their child due to their anxiety and continued to have a family holiday whilst one child is left behind? I’m don’t want judging I just want advice or personal experience from others whom may be in a similar situation Pray

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  • I can reply with personal experience. We tried all sorts of things including going back to the same place. After a break my son asked about a holiday again, so we booked one, but as he found it so difficult we returned early. He would not be happy to stay with a anyone else. I wonder if you could try a day or overnight first, in case you need to return early. 

  • in reply to Homebird

    We’ve just been talking this over and are considering splitting our holiday in 2, so my Daughter stays at home with my husband and I go away with my son and then me and my husband grab a few days away later in the year. Wasn’t quite sure at first but this way my son can look after her and she won’t feel left behind. Not your typical holiday but there is no way she will cope. 

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  • in reply to Homebird

    We’ve just been talking this over and are considering splitting our holiday in 2, so my Daughter stays at home with my husband and I go away with my son and then me and my husband grab a few days away later in the year. Wasn’t quite sure at first but this way my son can look after her and she won’t feel left behind. Not your typical holiday but there is no way she will cope. 

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