I have been with my partner for a year and he scores highly on the autism spectrum but I have no experience of it and am confused if he is making excuses for his behaviour. I try to tell him that I'm unhappy but he seems to think that I'm joking or being dramatic.
He is very childish when faced with conflict or something he doesn't want to hear and often becomes aggressive and threatens to break things if I don't stop. He has no responsibility when it comes to money and makes me turn into a nag as I am constantly asking him to put things in the bin, not speed in the car, not turn the music up loudly etc etc. he does the same things everyday when all I want is a law abiding, peaceful life! Sometimes it feels like he has bipolar or something similar as he becomes manic quickly. He has nearly walked out of his job many times and doesn't seem to understand that some of the stuff he says is completely out of order (one of the first times he met my mum he told her that my brother was extremely boring!)
He lied about a lot of things when we first got together and only owned up when I asked him directly about these things.
I dont know if I should cut him slack because of his autism or if he's actually a bad partner. I am deeply in love with him but something needs to change as I just can't handle the stress that he seems to enjoy in our relationship.
