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when to help in shut down or to leave for adult

topact1066

Hi, my partner is suffering through asd burnout ... to say it’s tough is a under statement

My questions 

is when she is having a shut down in her room and is nonverbal [ could be 1 hour could be all day!]

should i keep going up to check on her

Or by doing this am i messing up her ability to recover energy via the shutdown

Currently I check on her every  30 to 60 mins --- but is that good or bad help !!!!!! 

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  • I think this is a conversation you need to have with her when she is feeling ok. Only she can truly tell you what does and doesn't help when she feels like that and then between you, you could make a little plan of what you'll do when that happens. When I shut down (which isn't often and doesn't tend to last for very long) I appreciate it when someone sits in a room with me but doesn't expect me to communicate. But for others this may be too much. 

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  • I think this is a conversation you need to have with her when she is feeling ok. Only she can truly tell you what does and doesn't help when she feels like that and then between you, you could make a little plan of what you'll do when that happens. When I shut down (which isn't often and doesn't tend to last for very long) I appreciate it when someone sits in a room with me but doesn't expect me to communicate. But for others this may be too much. 

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