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Possible addiction causing meltdown please help

struggling mum

Good evening all,

I genuinely hope your all well. I posted before re the rollercoaster ride with my 11 year old son diagnosed last january especially in relation to education and bullying issues. My overwhelming thanks for the replies, I didn't know what to say at the time but found it helpful to know my son and I aren't alone but so sad so many of you have suffered the same as my son.

New issue (or maybe not as links with effects of previous bullying) my son is becoming a recluse. General attitude is that if he's not playing his electronic games he doesn't want to know and gets very angry and frustrated. Tried hard to engage him in other activities giving him a whole range but met with flat refusal.

Its escalated tonight with a meltdown. Basic issue from his side is he wants me to let him play 18 games which I flat refuse. According to him ALL his friends are playing them. Now pretty normal mother son stuff but here's the concern. His confessed this is all he can think about at any time of the day and its even kept him up an entire night. I know from my side its all his talked about, got angry about for a long time now.  

Now I understand the technology is his comfort zone and make as much allowance as I can but feel he's becoming a recluse refusing to do anything else and this worries me. If this is the way it is at 11 what will become of him during his teenage years?

Here's the question - do I pull right back on all technology to lessen this grip on him or what I don't know. I know he suffers anxieties re socialising, trying new things etc but whats the best way forward re time on technology?

Any insights will be gratefully received.

Thank-you.

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    longman said:

    Recombinantsocks gives a very positive image, and I would like to believe it is widely possible. It wasn't for me (back in the bad old days before there was a diagnosis, or treatment you'd want to get mixed up with).

    i was back in the old days too, i've just recently been diagnosed at 56 so i've experienced life with the condition, but not the explanation, until now. i was bullied at school (beaten up at one point to the point where the police got involved) and i now think this was partly down to me being 'odd'.

    I'm slightly intrigued as to whether i was better off without the label and the reasons to lock myself away because you know you are odd. 

    For me, the diagnosis is massively empowering and explains why i kept stumbling in social/work life. There are strategies and techniques to learn together with an acceptance that i am different but in no way mentally ill or damaged.

    So, my thoughts are from a slightly different angle to some others. 

    Another hobby that i have enjoyed along with many others with ASD is photography. Perhaps he could have a camera and learn to manipulate the photos on his computer. This appeals to the geeky side of us, having his own camera and mastering the complexities of all the different controls might intrigue him.

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    longman said:

    Recombinantsocks gives a very positive image, and I would like to believe it is widely possible. It wasn't for me (back in the bad old days before there was a diagnosis, or treatment you'd want to get mixed up with).

    i was back in the old days too, i've just recently been diagnosed at 56 so i've experienced life with the condition, but not the explanation, until now. i was bullied at school (beaten up at one point to the point where the police got involved) and i now think this was partly down to me being 'odd'.

    I'm slightly intrigued as to whether i was better off without the label and the reasons to lock myself away because you know you are odd. 

    For me, the diagnosis is massively empowering and explains why i kept stumbling in social/work life. There are strategies and techniques to learn together with an acceptance that i am different but in no way mentally ill or damaged.

    So, my thoughts are from a slightly different angle to some others. 

    Another hobby that i have enjoyed along with many others with ASD is photography. Perhaps he could have a camera and learn to manipulate the photos on his computer. This appeals to the geeky side of us, having his own camera and mastering the complexities of all the different controls might intrigue him.

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