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Quitting extra curricular clubs

Bugs_17

Hi everyone, really new here. 

I was just wondering if anyone had any advice or experience of a pre-teen suddenly wanting to quit all their extra curricular clubs? My son (11) has ASD, loves, trains, fixing things, reading and gaming.

He has recently quit one club due to no longer enjoying it and some bullying which I totally understand. Now he wants to quit Taekwondo, which has been a great confidence booster to him as a result of bullying and he's been doing really well. He doesn't have any firm friends but seems to get on ok and his teacher is excellent and really supportive.

I'm finding it hard to strike a balance of managing his overwhelm, listening to his needs but also trying to make sure he doesn't quit everything at the drop of a hat. He also is resistant to do any exercise so I'm keen for him to keep up with Taekwondo and swimming, his only clubs.

Has anyone else had this balancing act? I've asked him about alternative clubs/exercise but he's not at all interested. 

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  • When I was at school there weren't any clubs. My junior school didn't have any, my secondary and 6th form didn't have any as the teachers were taking industrial action for 6 of the 7 years.

    I think it is good that there is more these days, but I also see people seem to fill all their time up. I wouldn't have liked too many, and I found it hard to say no to things so would have got pushed into too much.

    Maybe he just wants more alone time to process what he is learning and let his mind wander (and read). That was what I did the most.

  • in reply to Stuart333

    Thanks  Stuart333. I totally agree and he definitely loves doing that. Its more a question of exercise/activity as he spends his break and lunchtimes reading. Due to a change of schools he now mostly travels by car so he really doesn't get much exercise and he struggles because of this.

    Also he has gained so much from Taekwondo in terms of confidence and self defence, which unfortunately he has needed, i think that's why I'm finding it hard to weigh up the pros and cons!

  • in reply to Bugs_17

    I agree about having exercise, it is good for your health, but also regulating. And if you are fit in your teens it pays dividends down the line as it us always easier to get it back.

    I got most of my exercise from walking 3-4 miles (round trip) a day over a hill to get to/from school (it was in London, bikes weren't allowed as it caused too much crime).

    At that age, without the walking to school I am not sure PE would have been enough. There was a lot more walking in general in the 70's/80's though. Used to walk to the shops, the park, take buses, etc.

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  • in reply to Bugs_17

    I agree about having exercise, it is good for your health, but also regulating. And if you are fit in your teens it pays dividends down the line as it us always easier to get it back.

    I got most of my exercise from walking 3-4 miles (round trip) a day over a hill to get to/from school (it was in London, bikes weren't allowed as it caused too much crime).

    At that age, without the walking to school I am not sure PE would have been enough. There was a lot more walking in general in the 70's/80's though. Used to walk to the shops, the park, take buses, etc.

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