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Asked to leave a restaurant

Bobbysmom

We were asked to leave a restuarant after Bobby (who is 4 and autistic) was having a meltdown after the starters were served. By that I mean crying loudly. A server told us that customers were complaining and they wanted us to leave. I said he would calm down and we would not leave. Then a female server came up and we were asked if we prefer to have our main course takeaway. I said no that he is autistic and would calm down. She shrugged her shoulders. Bobby was very upset and with the unfriendly environment we decided to talk to the staff. We went downstairs and found that the customers were 4 people (small resturant but but no means full). We told the manager that this was discrimination. Told the customers that there are a lot of autistic children and that needed to be more understanding. We were asked by the managers not to speak to the customers. We just left. I am so angry right now. Are they allowed to do this??

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    I agree with mumof4boys, I was shouted at in a supermarket, by a mum, once because I (pre-dx aspie) stared too long at her disabled daughter. Sometimes things happen that genuinely upset other people and the best thing to do is apologise. If you go back to the restaurant and ask to speak to the manager and then apologise. This might seem really hard and wrong to you but it can be a good tactic if you want to get someone on your side. In a sense, you have a choice about escalating an argument or making the really difficult first step to climb down from a position and trying to make friends with them.

    Can you imagine how this felt for the other customers or the staff, putting yourself in their shoes and then imagining how they would feel if you go back and apologise.

    I don't think this is about discrimination, it's about how people react when bad things happen.

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    I agree with mumof4boys, I was shouted at in a supermarket, by a mum, once because I (pre-dx aspie) stared too long at her disabled daughter. Sometimes things happen that genuinely upset other people and the best thing to do is apologise. If you go back to the restaurant and ask to speak to the manager and then apologise. This might seem really hard and wrong to you but it can be a good tactic if you want to get someone on your side. In a sense, you have a choice about escalating an argument or making the really difficult first step to climb down from a position and trying to make friends with them.

    Can you imagine how this felt for the other customers or the staff, putting yourself in their shoes and then imagining how they would feel if you go back and apologise.

    I don't think this is about discrimination, it's about how people react when bad things happen.

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