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poppet*

Hi folks,

            Im new to this so here goes. My daughter is 5 and has had her diagnosis of ASD for about 7 months after 2yrs of assesments. She is a very bright and talkative child with no separation issues, she is quite a handfull though and some of her behaviours can be challenging.

She has just started primary 1 a little over a week ago and really enjoys being a "schoolgirl" as she calls it , however myself and my partner are a bit unhappy. We feel the school are really treating her like an outcast, they have her finishing an hour and a half before everyone else which was fine for the first few days but we feel she is ready to stay at least another hour. She is now begining to notice that everyone else stays and she has to go home today when her dad picked her up the other kids were having break and they were all shouting and waving to her through the gate and the look on her wee face broke his heart.

Everytime we try to speak to someone about her progress in class we get stonewalled, she has a support teacher in class with her and her response when questioned is " I couldn't say, you need to talk to the class teacher" (she may as well say "no comment") however we cant get to see the class teacher because she is still in class with the other kids when we pick our daughter up . We have also tried to make an appointment for a meeting at reception but no-one ever gets back to us.

We feel she is missing out on socialising with the other children in her class. We dont want her to lose all the friends we have fought so hard for her to make and keep throughout nursery.

She WANTS to be at school and she is very capable, we have been told that some of the work she has completed is of a higher standard than that of her peer group, so we dont understand why they wont give her a chance . We know it's still early days but we feel that this is a very important time in her development. We would be very pleased to hear any advice anyone has to offer.

Thanks so much if anyone read this right to the end, i know that it's quite long lol

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  • Hi Poppet

    I too live in Scotland and my 14 year old son got an ASD diagnosis in the holidays after 2 years of assessments. I've had a running battle with my son's High School and had my first meeting with them today (a Solutions Focused Meeting as it's called) since his diagnosis, the Educational Psychologist and Speech and Language Therapist and Autism Outreach were there too.

    I think you should email the Head Teacher and request an appointment to discuss your daughters education and put a time limit on a response from her. If you don't know the email address ring the school and ask, look on their website or ring the Education Department and ask. By putting things in writing you have proof and a 'paper trail'. I would also keep a record of any conversations (who with, dates, what was said, any things that have happened etc) I have for 2 years and believe me I'm so glad I did as I would never have remembered them all and have needed to refer to them on many occasions.

    There is lots of useful info on NAS website about education/additional needs in Scotland and you can also download the Autism Toolkit which every school in Scotland should have and use. With a formal diagnosis your daughter's needs are covered under the Additional Support for Learning (Scotland) Act 2004 amended in 2009 again you can download off the internet.

    After the meeting email or write to her summarising anything that was agreed (keep a copy) and also fix an appointment with her to see how things are going at the end of the appointment.

    Good luck with getting that appointment, don't let them fob you off!

     

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  • Hi Poppet

    I too live in Scotland and my 14 year old son got an ASD diagnosis in the holidays after 2 years of assessments. I've had a running battle with my son's High School and had my first meeting with them today (a Solutions Focused Meeting as it's called) since his diagnosis, the Educational Psychologist and Speech and Language Therapist and Autism Outreach were there too.

    I think you should email the Head Teacher and request an appointment to discuss your daughters education and put a time limit on a response from her. If you don't know the email address ring the school and ask, look on their website or ring the Education Department and ask. By putting things in writing you have proof and a 'paper trail'. I would also keep a record of any conversations (who with, dates, what was said, any things that have happened etc) I have for 2 years and believe me I'm so glad I did as I would never have remembered them all and have needed to refer to them on many occasions.

    There is lots of useful info on NAS website about education/additional needs in Scotland and you can also download the Autism Toolkit which every school in Scotland should have and use. With a formal diagnosis your daughter's needs are covered under the Additional Support for Learning (Scotland) Act 2004 amended in 2009 again you can download off the internet.

    After the meeting email or write to her summarising anything that was agreed (keep a copy) and also fix an appointment with her to see how things are going at the end of the appointment.

    Good luck with getting that appointment, don't let them fob you off!

     

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