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poppet*

Hi folks,

            Im new to this so here goes. My daughter is 5 and has had her diagnosis of ASD for about 7 months after 2yrs of assesments. She is a very bright and talkative child with no separation issues, she is quite a handfull though and some of her behaviours can be challenging.

She has just started primary 1 a little over a week ago and really enjoys being a "schoolgirl" as she calls it , however myself and my partner are a bit unhappy. We feel the school are really treating her like an outcast, they have her finishing an hour and a half before everyone else which was fine for the first few days but we feel she is ready to stay at least another hour. She is now begining to notice that everyone else stays and she has to go home today when her dad picked her up the other kids were having break and they were all shouting and waving to her through the gate and the look on her wee face broke his heart.

Everytime we try to speak to someone about her progress in class we get stonewalled, she has a support teacher in class with her and her response when questioned is " I couldn't say, you need to talk to the class teacher" (she may as well say "no comment") however we cant get to see the class teacher because she is still in class with the other kids when we pick our daughter up . We have also tried to make an appointment for a meeting at reception but no-one ever gets back to us.

We feel she is missing out on socialising with the other children in her class. We dont want her to lose all the friends we have fought so hard for her to make and keep throughout nursery.

She WANTS to be at school and she is very capable, we have been told that some of the work she has completed is of a higher standard than that of her peer group, so we dont understand why they wont give her a chance . We know it's still early days but we feel that this is a very important time in her development. We would be very pleased to hear any advice anyone has to offer.

Thanks so much if anyone read this right to the end, i know that it's quite long lol

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  • Hi poppet,

     

    I was in a very similar psition when my son started school, he had gone to a special needs playgroup but it was decided he didnt need to go to a special needs school and should go to mainstream with support.

    I am also in scotland so know how the system works here in my LEA but even in the same country the LEA's vary greatly. I attend all the parent forum groups etc that i can and through that I made contacts with people at the LEA, then when faced with difficulties at the school I contacted them who in turn contacted the school and then a lot of issues were resolved.

    Its true that if a school think they can fob you off they will, one of my faviorite saying s on hear is that "a squeaky door gets more attention" is so true once you envolve other agencies school realise that they have to answer you as you wont give up untill they do. Its a long winded way to go and you would think it wouldnt be necessary but unfourtunatly it quite often is. 

    I totaly agree with Mhairi about the emotional strain on your part and you do need to get all the help you can from all the places Mharii has suggested.

    Hope this all helps in some way, best of luck to you and your daughter

    sam

    x

     

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  • Hi poppet,

     

    I was in a very similar psition when my son started school, he had gone to a special needs playgroup but it was decided he didnt need to go to a special needs school and should go to mainstream with support.

    I am also in scotland so know how the system works here in my LEA but even in the same country the LEA's vary greatly. I attend all the parent forum groups etc that i can and through that I made contacts with people at the LEA, then when faced with difficulties at the school I contacted them who in turn contacted the school and then a lot of issues were resolved.

    Its true that if a school think they can fob you off they will, one of my faviorite saying s on hear is that "a squeaky door gets more attention" is so true once you envolve other agencies school realise that they have to answer you as you wont give up untill they do. Its a long winded way to go and you would think it wouldnt be necessary but unfourtunatly it quite often is. 

    I totaly agree with Mhairi about the emotional strain on your part and you do need to get all the help you can from all the places Mharii has suggested.

    Hope this all helps in some way, best of luck to you and your daughter

    sam

    x

     

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