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Hi folks,

            Im new to this so here goes. My daughter is 5 and has had her diagnosis of ASD for about 7 months after 2yrs of assesments. She is a very bright and talkative child with no separation issues, she is quite a handfull though and some of her behaviours can be challenging.

She has just started primary 1 a little over a week ago and really enjoys being a "schoolgirl" as she calls it , however myself and my partner are a bit unhappy. We feel the school are really treating her like an outcast, they have her finishing an hour and a half before everyone else which was fine for the first few days but we feel she is ready to stay at least another hour. She is now begining to notice that everyone else stays and she has to go home today when her dad picked her up the other kids were having break and they were all shouting and waving to her through the gate and the look on her wee face broke his heart.

Everytime we try to speak to someone about her progress in class we get stonewalled, she has a support teacher in class with her and her response when questioned is " I couldn't say, you need to talk to the class teacher" (she may as well say "no comment") however we cant get to see the class teacher because she is still in class with the other kids when we pick our daughter up . We have also tried to make an appointment for a meeting at reception but no-one ever gets back to us.

We feel she is missing out on socialising with the other children in her class. We dont want her to lose all the friends we have fought so hard for her to make and keep throughout nursery.

She WANTS to be at school and she is very capable, we have been told that some of the work she has completed is of a higher standard than that of her peer group, so we dont understand why they wont give her a chance . We know it's still early days but we feel that this is a very important time in her development. We would be very pleased to hear any advice anyone has to offer.

Thanks so much if anyone read this right to the end, i know that it's quite long lol

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  • Hi guys,

               Thanks for the replys,you are both right we are from scotland .

    I dont think i mentioned that we don't really know who our daughter's support teacher is going to be as she has already had two so far, one of them being a bit more helpfull than the other (she will at least tell us is if she has had a good day or not).

    Her class teacher taught her at nursery school and didn't seem to cope with her needs very well at that stage, it had been suggested that she should go to a special school. So we put an application forward to any special school in our area and everyone involved in her care and education had to write a report. The application was refused by the board on the grounds that they believed she would be able to cope with mainstream school and that the much coveted places in these particular schools would be better suited to children with more needs than our child.

    We were actually quite pleased with the the outcome as we also felt she would be able to cope with mainstream school and were glad she would be staying close to home with the friends she had made. Her friends are very important to us because it takes time to get to know our daughter and all the friends she has love and accept her. I've seen my daughter in situations where she has been shunned by other children for her 'innappropriate' behaviour and it breaks my heart.

    So the point i have been trying to make is we feel her teacher resents the fact that the application was refused and would sooner not have our child in her class. Dont get me wrong we get the impression that she does care for our daughter but we dont think she has the 'time' for her. Like she is too much of a challenge. It's almost as if because she has been given this 'label' now she has changed.

    We just want her to treated like everyone else and if she shows signs of not coping then so be it, we can try somthing else.....but at least give her a chance

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  • Hi guys,

               Thanks for the replys,you are both right we are from scotland .

    I dont think i mentioned that we don't really know who our daughter's support teacher is going to be as she has already had two so far, one of them being a bit more helpfull than the other (she will at least tell us is if she has had a good day or not).

    Her class teacher taught her at nursery school and didn't seem to cope with her needs very well at that stage, it had been suggested that she should go to a special school. So we put an application forward to any special school in our area and everyone involved in her care and education had to write a report. The application was refused by the board on the grounds that they believed she would be able to cope with mainstream school and that the much coveted places in these particular schools would be better suited to children with more needs than our child.

    We were actually quite pleased with the the outcome as we also felt she would be able to cope with mainstream school and were glad she would be staying close to home with the friends she had made. Her friends are very important to us because it takes time to get to know our daughter and all the friends she has love and accept her. I've seen my daughter in situations where she has been shunned by other children for her 'innappropriate' behaviour and it breaks my heart.

    So the point i have been trying to make is we feel her teacher resents the fact that the application was refused and would sooner not have our child in her class. Dont get me wrong we get the impression that she does care for our daughter but we dont think she has the 'time' for her. Like she is too much of a challenge. It's almost as if because she has been given this 'label' now she has changed.

    We just want her to treated like everyone else and if she shows signs of not coping then so be it, we can try somthing else.....but at least give her a chance

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