starting school

Hi folks,

            Im new to this so here goes. My daughter is 5 and has had her diagnosis of ASD for about 7 months after 2yrs of assesments. She is a very bright and talkative child with no separation issues, she is quite a handfull though and some of her behaviours can be challenging.

She has just started primary 1 a little over a week ago and really enjoys being a "schoolgirl" as she calls it  , however myself and my partner are a bit unhappy. We feel the school are really treating her like an outcast, they have her finishing an hour and a half before everyone else which was fine for the first few days but we feel she is ready to stay at least another hour. She is now begining to notice that everyone else stays and she has to go home  today when her dad picked her up the other kids were having break and they were all shouting and waving to her through the gate and the look on her wee face broke his heart.

Everytime we try to speak to someone about her progress in class we get stonewalled, she has a support teacher in class with her and her response when questioned is " I couldn't say, you need to talk to the class teacher" (she may as well say "no comment") however we cant get to see the class teacher because she is still in class with the other kids when we pick our daughter up  . We have also tried to make an appointment for a meeting at reception but no-one ever gets back to us.

We feel she is missing out on socialising with the other children in her class. We dont want her to lose all the friends we have fought so hard for her to make and keep throughout nursery.

She WANTS to be at school and she is very capable, we have been told that some of the work she has completed is of a higher standard than that of her peer group, so we dont understand why they wont give her a chance  . We know it's still early days but we feel that this is a very important time in her development. We would be very pleased to hear any advice anyone has to offer.

Thanks so much if anyone read this right to the end, i know that it's quite long lol

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  • Hi,

    Am I right in thinking that you are in Scotland?  I am not sure what your system is but I would suggest that you make an appointment with your school nurse if you have one and have a chat with her.  Hopefully you will be able to get her support.  Maybe you could also put your request for a chat with your daughter's teacher in writing as well or ask to see the head teacher. 

    It seems a shame that you are fobbed off by her support assistant.  Perhaps you could ask for her to be present at any meetings you have with the teacher or headteacher so that you can all be sure that you are singing from the same hymnsheet so to speak.  It can be really important for a child's progress and routine for everyone to be working together if at all possible.

    I wish you the best of luck and it is lovely that your daughter is doing so well.

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  • Hi,

    Am I right in thinking that you are in Scotland?  I am not sure what your system is but I would suggest that you make an appointment with your school nurse if you have one and have a chat with her.  Hopefully you will be able to get her support.  Maybe you could also put your request for a chat with your daughter's teacher in writing as well or ask to see the head teacher. 

    It seems a shame that you are fobbed off by her support assistant.  Perhaps you could ask for her to be present at any meetings you have with the teacher or headteacher so that you can all be sure that you are singing from the same hymnsheet so to speak.  It can be really important for a child's progress and routine for everyone to be working together if at all possible.

    I wish you the best of luck and it is lovely that your daughter is doing so well.

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