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Advice on 25yr old with Autism and ADHD

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Our son has been formally diagnosed with Autism, OCD & ADHD.   He is a bright boy and managed to complete a History degree, he started an MSC but dropped out.   He did not succeed in making many friends and has now returned home and has retreated to his room and we are getting quite worried about him.

He has come to the end of his education and does not seem to have any plan on how to move forward in life.  Try as we might to talk to him about it he does not want to engage with us.  He has become nocturnal (possibly to avoid us his parents) and sleeps all day.   He spends a lot of time on the internet and is a avid non fiction reader. 

In the past he has had third party support which he engaged with and valued.   

We are at a bit of a loss as to what do.   

If anyone else has been in this situation and could recommend strategies it would be very welcome.

Particularly any third parties that could help.

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  • Hi, we are in the same position except my son is 19. He finished college in June, passed his A levels OK but has no plans and refuses to engage in any conversations about next steps. Just mentioning it sends him into an anxiety response and he shuts down.

    He also stays up late and sleeps most of the day. I just can't see how we can move forward.

    He is undiagnosed and although did agree to an assessment last year. The process just to be referred via the GP was messed up and now he won't engage in anything about an assessment either.

    Just have no idea what to do.

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  • Hi, we are in the same position except my son is 19. He finished college in June, passed his A levels OK but has no plans and refuses to engage in any conversations about next steps. Just mentioning it sends him into an anxiety response and he shuts down.

    He also stays up late and sleeps most of the day. I just can't see how we can move forward.

    He is undiagnosed and although did agree to an assessment last year. The process just to be referred via the GP was messed up and now he won't engage in anything about an assessment either.

    Just have no idea what to do.

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  • in reply to Chubbyunicorn

    Yes, it's tough! My son was willing to engage with the assessment so that was half the battle won. I would keep trying to encourage him to get an assessment and maybe even include the GP? My son has numerous visit's to the GP and they were very helpful, the quickest route was "Right to choose" it comes from a self referral.