So many problems with 18yr old - at wits end- long post

Hi everyone. I really don't know if anyone can offer any help or advice, I just don't know where to turn at the moment. My son was diagnosed with Aspergers and ADHD at 12 yrs old. School was a nightmare, running away, refusing to attend, no friends etc. He was finally placed in a home and hospitals school in year nine and did better there, actually making three friends.

He was unable to attend mainstream college (had a MASSIVE panic attack on the day he was due to start) and has since been on a couple of confidence boosting specialised short courses. He had just started a new year long course with four other aspies when he went out at luchtime with one other lad and got knocked over. He almost died and spent 2 weeks in critical care, then 12 more weeks in hospital with serious head injuries and a broken pelvis.

It's been a hellish 7 months and I had a breakdown. Now on antidepressants. He has brain damage, which has caused problems with memory and cognitive difficulties. His temper is very short and more explosive than before (it was quite bad before the accident) He's been at home with me for 3 months now. His aspergers has returned with a vengance. His social anxiety and hatred of mixing/meeting other people is at an all time high. To make matters worse his sleeping pattern has reversed so he's awake all night and asleep until the afternoon.

I'm on my own with him, (his father hasn't bothered for 10 years). All he wants to do now is sit in his room on his xbox, playing games and talking to his three friends over the xbox chat. He has a support worker twice a week who takes him for walks and plays board games, but he hates them coming (even though he does actually like them) and we have massive rows about this. He doesn't seem to want to help himself get any better and refuses to do anything with me or my brother like cinema or days out. How can I help him? Sorry for such a long post. 

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  • Hi - what a difficult situation for both of you.  I'm more than surprised that your son isn't getting continuing care from the nhs/social services, unless the small amount he gets from his support worker is that?  I think you need to push the medical profession + social services really v hard on this 1, for both your sakes.  Also it might be worth ringing the nas helpline (you may get an ansaphone, but they will ring back) for advice.

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  • Hi - what a difficult situation for both of you.  I'm more than surprised that your son isn't getting continuing care from the nhs/social services, unless the small amount he gets from his support worker is that?  I think you need to push the medical profession + social services really v hard on this 1, for both your sakes.  Also it might be worth ringing the nas helpline (you may get an ansaphone, but they will ring back) for advice.

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