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Father not interested in childs diagnosis or how to help

melon

Hi

My son recently got the Aspergers diagnosis. I am reading up and finding out as much as I can about how he is affected, what his needs are and how I can help him. My husband is not!

Despite me asking my husband to do so he has not looked up a single thing about this condition. It seems like he doesn't care about our son or want to help him. He will not discuss the diagnosis with me or anyone else. 

I feel like a single parent right now. 

Any advise or thoughts?

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  • Former Member
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    It actually sounds as though you are both in a good place about your son's problems. :-)

    Your husband's outburst sounded a touch like an autistic person's outburst and I was wondering if you had made that connection.

    Diagnosis can be liberating, it was for me, but it can also have unwanted affects. Some people take the diagnosis as a confirmation that they are broken and disabled and that it ruins their lives. I think that there is a case for being very sparing in the use of the label and to try and be a very good parent and make sure he goes to a suitable school and that he is aware of it but that he doesn't decide that he is damaged in any way.

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    It actually sounds as though you are both in a good place about your son's problems. :-)

    Your husband's outburst sounded a touch like an autistic person's outburst and I was wondering if you had made that connection.

    Diagnosis can be liberating, it was for me, but it can also have unwanted affects. Some people take the diagnosis as a confirmation that they are broken and disabled and that it ruins their lives. I think that there is a case for being very sparing in the use of the label and to try and be a very good parent and make sure he goes to a suitable school and that he is aware of it but that he doesn't decide that he is damaged in any way.

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