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Father not interested in childs diagnosis or how to help

melon

Hi

My son recently got the Aspergers diagnosis. I am reading up and finding out as much as I can about how he is affected, what his needs are and how I can help him. My husband is not!

Despite me asking my husband to do so he has not looked up a single thing about this condition. It seems like he doesn't care about our son or want to help him. He will not discuss the diagnosis with me or anyone else. 

I feel like a single parent right now. 

Any advise or thoughts?

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  • I should have clarified that my obsession is very much internal and research centred, not something I talk about a lot to him, in fact, last night was probably the first time I'd shared something I was looking at with him. I don't think he sees autism as a negative thing, he actually thinks he has traits himself! But he doesn't feel that he needs to read up about it to know how to interact with his son. I don't see this as an issue as I know he has a wonderful way with the children, we are both keen to deal with any outbursts and tantrums in a gentle way and help them to calm down and teach them to express their feelings in other ways, this isn't a philosophy that we've come to since the diagnosis, it's a basic courtesy that I think should be afforded to all people when they are children. I was actually trying to say that just because your husband doesn't want to research autism, doesn't mean that he is ashamed of your son or that he doesn't accept the condition.

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  • I should have clarified that my obsession is very much internal and research centred, not something I talk about a lot to him, in fact, last night was probably the first time I'd shared something I was looking at with him. I don't think he sees autism as a negative thing, he actually thinks he has traits himself! But he doesn't feel that he needs to read up about it to know how to interact with his son. I don't see this as an issue as I know he has a wonderful way with the children, we are both keen to deal with any outbursts and tantrums in a gentle way and help them to calm down and teach them to express their feelings in other ways, this isn't a philosophy that we've come to since the diagnosis, it's a basic courtesy that I think should be afforded to all people when they are children. I was actually trying to say that just because your husband doesn't want to research autism, doesn't mean that he is ashamed of your son or that he doesn't accept the condition.

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