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Father not interested in childs diagnosis or how to help

melon

Hi

My son recently got the Aspergers diagnosis. I am reading up and finding out as much as I can about how he is affected, what his needs are and how I can help him. My husband is not!

Despite me asking my husband to do so he has not looked up a single thing about this condition. It seems like he doesn't care about our son or want to help him. He will not discuss the diagnosis with me or anyone else. 

I feel like a single parent right now. 

Any advise or thoughts?

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  • Hi, my son recently got a diagnosis for asd and just browsing these forums I found your post and I can relate. Part of the reason I'm on here is because I feel like I need to talk about this! It's huge! It answers a lot of questions for me and I've become a little obsessed with researching it. We have also been discussing the possibility of our son having autism for a few months but now that we have our answers my husband is not interested. He's a loving father and super involved in both out boys, I honestly don't feel that he is ashamed of our son or his autism but last night I was talking to him about it and he said "look, to be honest I don't give a *** about autism and I don't want to know about it, I just love George and I know him and I want to deal with each day as it comes. I don't want to spend time worrying about how things might be or how life might be hard for him, just deal with it when oR if it comes."

    I confess i was a little hurt by his bluntness (he doesn't usually swear) but I know where he's coming from and I'm a bit jealous that he can have such a simple view of it. We do know our son and we understand him, I find research comforting but he obviously doesn't. I don't think it tells me anything I don't already know about G personally, which is really all that matters. I think for him all the diagnosis is is a way to help others understand G and for him to access extra services he needs, not something that he needs in order to get to know his son better

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  • Hi, my son recently got a diagnosis for asd and just browsing these forums I found your post and I can relate. Part of the reason I'm on here is because I feel like I need to talk about this! It's huge! It answers a lot of questions for me and I've become a little obsessed with researching it. We have also been discussing the possibility of our son having autism for a few months but now that we have our answers my husband is not interested. He's a loving father and super involved in both out boys, I honestly don't feel that he is ashamed of our son or his autism but last night I was talking to him about it and he said "look, to be honest I don't give a *** about autism and I don't want to know about it, I just love George and I know him and I want to deal with each day as it comes. I don't want to spend time worrying about how things might be or how life might be hard for him, just deal with it when oR if it comes."

    I confess i was a little hurt by his bluntness (he doesn't usually swear) but I know where he's coming from and I'm a bit jealous that he can have such a simple view of it. We do know our son and we understand him, I find research comforting but he obviously doesn't. I don't think it tells me anything I don't already know about G personally, which is really all that matters. I think for him all the diagnosis is is a way to help others understand G and for him to access extra services he needs, not something that he needs in order to get to know his son better

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