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Does anyone else feel all these anti-bullying policies are no more than words on paper?

struggling mum

Sorry for the negative title but had to withdraw my son from his mainstream placement. His been punched, kicked, stuff broken, verbally tomented, had all his friends turned against him and more spanning over a year. I've had countless meetings with the head with other agencies involved and still nothing changes. I have this bully tormenting my son outside our home and my son refuses to go out. He use to go out with friends and to clubs but now doesn't all because of this one child. I've tried everything even involved the police (recently) but just can't seem to get rid of him. 

I'm severely dissapointed with the school but sadly not suprised (I don't mean to label schools its just been a very frustrating time and second experience of this problem). I finally wrote a letter explaining my reasons for withdrawing my son and not even a response (not that I even want one). I just wanted to ask if anyone else feels this way regards these so called anti-bullying policies and if anyone has any suggestions on how I can get rid of this bully once and for all (preferably staying the right side of the law ;-))

Thanks in advance x

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  • I can follow the development of the more complex forms of bullying, and people on the spectrum may be victims of conventional bullying.

    The problem is if you are different, the bullying can be much more about peer rejection. I would still stress the danger of assuming conventional bullying, if the real issue is an individual standing out as different, and suffering exclusion, rejection or direct hostility.

    A parallel is the label "***". This is often used for just different. The perception might be it refers to sexuality, and certainly the implication is often "same as" ***, and just as hurtful and derogatory. But many people labelled "*** " in schools are not gay. The misery caused is as extreme.

    The odd thing is that "***" labelling is one of the most extensively studied forms of collective bullying. This may be about political correctness and a sense of obligation to stop people being bullied on the griounds of sexuality - but it seems few kids labelled *** actually are gay.

    Bullying Asperger kids might be an equality issue if it is specific. But the kids suffering this are not usually being labelled "aspie". The discrimination is about difference, the reason for the difference is less widely understood.

    So bizarrely we will see teachers act postiviely where someone is called "***", but completely failing to understand when someone on the autistic spectrum is suffering collective bullying.

    In some way this is down to the cliche - triad of impaitrments - yes we know about the disability from the triad, but we don't know why this child is behaving oddly if its not covered by the triad.

    Sadly I'm never going to get this across to NAS, whio will sail on contentedly, not bothering in the slightest how many kids suuffer for aspergers caused difference not explained by the triad of impairments. 

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  • I can follow the development of the more complex forms of bullying, and people on the spectrum may be victims of conventional bullying.

    The problem is if you are different, the bullying can be much more about peer rejection. I would still stress the danger of assuming conventional bullying, if the real issue is an individual standing out as different, and suffering exclusion, rejection or direct hostility.

    A parallel is the label "***". This is often used for just different. The perception might be it refers to sexuality, and certainly the implication is often "same as" ***, and just as hurtful and derogatory. But many people labelled "*** " in schools are not gay. The misery caused is as extreme.

    The odd thing is that "***" labelling is one of the most extensively studied forms of collective bullying. This may be about political correctness and a sense of obligation to stop people being bullied on the griounds of sexuality - but it seems few kids labelled *** actually are gay.

    Bullying Asperger kids might be an equality issue if it is specific. But the kids suffering this are not usually being labelled "aspie". The discrimination is about difference, the reason for the difference is less widely understood.

    So bizarrely we will see teachers act postiviely where someone is called "***", but completely failing to understand when someone on the autistic spectrum is suffering collective bullying.

    In some way this is down to the cliche - triad of impaitrments - yes we know about the disability from the triad, but we don't know why this child is behaving oddly if its not covered by the triad.

    Sadly I'm never going to get this across to NAS, whio will sail on contentedly, not bothering in the slightest how many kids suuffer for aspergers caused difference not explained by the triad of impairments. 

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