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Does anyone else feel all these anti-bullying policies are no more than words on paper?

struggling mum

Sorry for the negative title but had to withdraw my son from his mainstream placement. His been punched, kicked, stuff broken, verbally tomented, had all his friends turned against him and more spanning over a year. I've had countless meetings with the head with other agencies involved and still nothing changes. I have this bully tormenting my son outside our home and my son refuses to go out. He use to go out with friends and to clubs but now doesn't all because of this one child. I've tried everything even involved the police (recently) but just can't seem to get rid of him. 

I'm severely dissapointed with the school but sadly not suprised (I don't mean to label schools its just been a very frustrating time and second experience of this problem). I finally wrote a letter explaining my reasons for withdrawing my son and not even a response (not that I even want one). I just wanted to ask if anyone else feels this way regards these so called anti-bullying policies and if anyone has any suggestions on how I can get rid of this bully once and for all (preferably staying the right side of the law ;-))

Thanks in advance x

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  • Is the bully a child?  I think there must be something you can do about him being outside your house.  If the police can not help, I'd speak to your local councillor or MP.  Alternatively, go to CAB to see if they can offer any legal advice - I'm not sure if you can take out an injuction against a child?  Alternatively, if the area has social housing and the child is a tenant, it may be worth speaking to the landlord.  Families have been removed from houses because of anti-social behaviour.

    I do think schools vary a great deal when it comes to bullying.  I've been lucky in that all three schools my daughter has attended have been marvellous at dealing with bullying but the actual bullying has a real knock on self-esteem.  If you haven't already done so, I'd go to your GP and ask for some help from CAMHS for this.

    Did you write the letter to the head or the governors?  If the first, send a copy to the governors and also copy in the LEA.  I've heard of some terrible bullying incidents that have been dismissed by the head and the governors but sending a copy to the LEA ensures its kept on file.

    I hope you get this sorted.

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  • Is the bully a child?  I think there must be something you can do about him being outside your house.  If the police can not help, I'd speak to your local councillor or MP.  Alternatively, go to CAB to see if they can offer any legal advice - I'm not sure if you can take out an injuction against a child?  Alternatively, if the area has social housing and the child is a tenant, it may be worth speaking to the landlord.  Families have been removed from houses because of anti-social behaviour.

    I do think schools vary a great deal when it comes to bullying.  I've been lucky in that all three schools my daughter has attended have been marvellous at dealing with bullying but the actual bullying has a real knock on self-esteem.  If you haven't already done so, I'd go to your GP and ask for some help from CAMHS for this.

    Did you write the letter to the head or the governors?  If the first, send a copy to the governors and also copy in the LEA.  I've heard of some terrible bullying incidents that have been dismissed by the head and the governors but sending a copy to the LEA ensures its kept on file.

    I hope you get this sorted.

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