Hi all,
My partner has what I think is asd burnout. i am looking for advice from anyone who has worked through this minefield to the other side
. Background - we have been together 10 years. My partner has asd diagnosis and would be considered high functioning [ works 25 hours a week ]
Over the last few months, her asd issues have multiplied 5-fold at least.
Lots of shouting or going bed for half a day or all day, followed by feeling rubbish because of shouting or being in bed all day.
Self-care has dropped right down its a struggke to get ther ti eat at least 3 days of the week.
i really need the advice.
i find the advice in sites like this to be very weak
- give them space = done, but has not improved things
- be calm and do not blame = done and of course
- encourage her to do her special interest to get more spoons = have always done this
i make a massive effort to make life smooth for her, so as not to trigger a asd moment, but it's now almost impossible to have a day without a shutdown or meltdown.
Today was 10 minutes late having a bath this cause a shut down and has been in bed all day, and totally non-verbal :(
i am exhausted trying to support her, and if i am exhauste,d she must be triple exhausted
Any thoughts appreciated
